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Post by long on Oct 18, 2007 0:10:22 GMT -5
I think a lot of guys can have sexual thoughts about other guys, no matter how small, but then feel like a freak just because it's not the 'thing' to do. Most of the guys I know are the most blokish guys you'll ever meet, but I've managed to get most of them to admit they've had sexual thoughts about other guys....it doesn't mean they're even gay in the slightest though. Not even bi. A thought is just that... Fantasies are just that. - I've never had sexual thoughts about other men, does that mean there's something wrong with me - The straight man's take (as previously expressed by Gohan): Straight, gay, bi, zoosexual, etc. are terms that denote the types of creatures a person would fancy having a go with. Whether these desires are acted upon is basically irrelevant. A monk who's taken a vow of celibacy but still has latent sexual desire for females is not asexual, he's straight. And a gay man that represses his natural inclinations for men and marries a woman to satisfy his family is gay, even if he never so much as hugs another man. Yes/no? I really think this is how most people understand it. - So if you lay a lot of chicks but still fantasize about bending over for your best friend Bill or that really hot actor you're moving into the "gay in the slightest" bisexual world. So Alisa, if your guy friends are fantasizing about other men, why don't they try it? Social stigma right? I don't think there's anything wrong with it (bisexuality) so we shouldn't be ashamed to admit it when it's the truth. - If this thread fills up with straight guys admitting to the occasional homosexual fantasy involving their favorite actor my mind will officially be blown.
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Post by alisa on Oct 18, 2007 0:53:56 GMT -5
^I didn't say my mates hadn't tried it! Some have gone as far as sex, but found that they didn't enjoy it, nor would ever persue a r/ship with another guy....but still have fantasies about it......how would that work then? How can you call someone 'bi' when they have tried it and disliked it yet still like the fantasy? I really don't believe that the simple desire to 'have a go with' anybody in any way dictates your sexuality. Everybody gives off a sexual air, some more than others, and I believe that it's possible to be attracted to that, as opposed to their perceived gender full stop! Look at Angelina Jolie. How many women who consider themselves straight would go there? - and I don't think that they are closet bi-sexuals or lesbians. Angelina just simply exudes sensuality. As for the example of a monk, it is not a good example since for one, he does not engage in sexual relationships to gain the experience that regular people would. The type of attraction I'm talking about is learned and comes with sexual experience and the eventual willingness to broaden your horizons. It's rare that someone who hasn't had a long term partner, or multiple partners, would actually agree with me anyway. It's the same as when you begin relationships when you're young, you start with kissing, then light petting, oral, and so on and so forth. This is also not to say that you're not born with it, because you can be - and I believe that not everyone who is born with it will ever accept it and/or act on it either! That's why gender is so complicated and there are groups - like transsexuals, crossdressers, pansexuals, etc - who are discriminated against. People just don't understand them.
And no....there's nothing wrong with you if you've never had sexual thoughts about other men! It either means you're simply an all woman man or you just haven't come across the 'right' man - but if you ever do get a weird attraction feeling towards a male one day, my bit of advice is just don't freak out! Just accept it and move on. No one expects you to do anything about it! Nothing wrong with naughty thoughts!
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Post by ~bep_pu~ on Oct 24, 2007 16:50:23 GMT -5
id hit it
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