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Post by picey on Aug 7, 2007 12:40:33 GMT -5
your trying to fill out forms and it asks you what ethnicity/race you are and you dont know what to put down? and they dont have a other or a mixed...
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Post by i move the stars for no one on Aug 7, 2007 17:01:11 GMT -5
Don't you hate it when you're given a tiny tiny box to fill out your info on a job application. I have to write so small to fit everything in. i think it's especially ridiculous because you need a resume for everything,including fast food,nowadays.i can understand why writing 'please refer to resume' is frowned on,but i just fill the bare bones in the tiny box and assume they'll look to the resume for details.
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Post by TeeHee on Aug 7, 2007 20:23:25 GMT -5
don't you hate it when random strangers stop you just to ask you about your background/race/ethnicity. this happened to me just the other day at my work. i was running back and forth between the back kitchen area and front restaurant area when this dude(who wasn't my customer) wouldn't stop "excuse me! miss! excuse me!".....i stop to see what he has to say...."how do you say your name?(as he looks at my nametag) what's your nationality?"....i was a bitch back to him, to which he just kinda shut up. there are certain scenarios where i don't mind people asking about my ethnicity, but this wasn't one of those cases, and this guy was just asking for it.
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Post by 0 on Aug 7, 2007 20:30:27 GMT -5
^ *knocks on bathroom stall door*
"excuse me, miss?" ;D
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Post by penguinopolipitese on Aug 7, 2007 21:53:04 GMT -5
ha! Soleil being bitchy ;D That's scary. She has such an intimidating voice to begin with...
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Post by daisypukes on Aug 9, 2007 9:28:14 GMT -5
Don't you hate it when you're filling out forms and the bitch behind the counter asks you what race and you say biracial and then you watch as she writes in "Asian"?
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Post by lo1337a on Aug 12, 2007 23:41:36 GMT -5
I hate being stared at by people behind a counter at Asian food court eateries. Yes, I am equal parts Asian-looking and Like-the-dude-who-is-washing-the-dishes-looking. That does not mean you get him and point and scratch your head. I almost prefer being asked to being stared at and talked about like I can't hear it. Just give me my damn noodles.
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Post by dannyd on Sept 12, 2007 18:05:24 GMT -5
But aren't your parents sort of..u know..well..: no they are both white (which to be fair they are) To be fair, isn't that a bit of a misrepresentation? You know perfectly well what one means by 'white'. The questions can be annoying for sure, but correct me if I'm wrong, it seems you're also irked by the truth.
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Post by Guy in the white shirt on Sept 12, 2007 23:35:19 GMT -5
And here I was thinking that it was me just angry with the world lol. Sometimes I just get a little tired of that first look you get from people when you know they're trying to place your nationality. Especially gets annoying when its every second person you pass (could be that I'm staring at them. )
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Post by hapalicious on Sept 18, 2007 18:10:20 GMT -5
To be fair, isn't that a bit of a misrepresentation? You know perfectly well what one means by 'white'. The questions can be annoying for sure, but correct me if I'm wrong, it seems you're also irked by the truth. I mean who knows my family background? My parents could have died and I could have been adopted...hence both my parents are white (not true in my case though) and it's an emotional thing to talk about. urm...just saying...i know it can get annoying at times especially in some cases but i find it annoying too when people bitch too much about the "attention" they get from being mixed... i mean, sure, we certainly get more when it comes to looks (ugly or not...due to the "originality" of the features) but some people here make it sound like it s a plague when they actually enjoy the attention. not saying it s your case tiger, but i find it a bit hypocritical because even if i rarely go into details, i actually like it when someone tries to understand a bit further than "oh so you re mixed. yeah i could tell you were asian looking but i wasn t sure" and from the example you used, that could be the case for anyone ! not just eas... basically you re saying noone should ask anyone about other people s parents lest they have a tragic family history...
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Post by TeeHee on Sept 18, 2007 21:09:15 GMT -5
I mean who knows my family background? My parents could have died and I could have been adopted...hence both my parents are white (not true in my case though) and it's an emotional thing to talk about. i mean, sure, we certainly get more when it comes to looks (ugly or not...due to the "originality" of the features) but some people here make it sound like it s a plague when they actually enjoy the attention. not saying it s your case tiger, but i find it a bit hypocritical because even if i rarely go into details, i actually like it when someone tries to understand a bit further than "oh so you re mixed. yeah i could tell you were asian looking but i wasn t sure" and from the example you used, that could be the case for anyone ! not just eas... basically you re saying noone should ask anyone about other people s parents lest they have a tragic family history... i know this wasn't originally directed at me, but for the record, i don't enjoy the attention at all. i get asked this same annoying question each shift i work(i'm a waitress btw)...typical scenario... me: so, what can i get for you? them: *looking at my nametag* how do you say your name? me: So-lay...now, what can i get for you? them: where are you from? me: are you gonna work with me or are you gonna continue asking me more personal questions. bec i won't do any more personal questions from you. EVERYTIME it always starts off with the pronunciation of my name and branches off into alot more personal/invasive questions. if it weren't for the fact that i wear a nametag at my job, they wouldn't even be asking my name(there have been a few times i've gotten away with not wearing my nametag at work, and no one asked). i've had people try to stop me when i was extremely busy JUST to ask me those questions. and i've always had tables that weren't mine hail me down to start grilling me, one of them telling me "we just made a bet with each other wondering where you're from. so where you from?". and to be frank, i'd rather not get any attention at all than to be constantly getting that kind of attention. and for that above dialogue, when i responded with that to them, they later told my manager on me saying i had an "attitude problem" . unless we're close personal friends, i don't care to have you "try to understand me". if the situation is relevant or if someone wants to voluntarily state their ethnicity, that's all fine and dandy, but i have the decency NOT to ask someone their ethnicity when it's completely irrelevant. unless i'm trying to hit on someone, i really don't give a rat's ass where they're "from". i can't even remember the last time i randomly asked someone about their ethnicity/background, i always just thought it was common decency not to.
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Post by hapalicious on Sept 18, 2007 21:38:34 GMT -5
i mean, sure, we certainly get more when it comes to looks (ugly or not...due to the "originality" of the features) but some people here make it sound like it s a plague when they actually enjoy the attention. not saying it s your case tiger, but i find it a bit hypocritical because even if i rarely go into details, i actually like it when someone tries to understand a bit further than "oh so you re mixed. yeah i could tell you were asian looking but i wasn t sure" and from the example you used, that could be the case for anyone ! not just eas... basically you re saying noone should ask anyone about other people s parents lest they have a tragic family history... i know this wasn't originally directed at me, but for the record, i don't enjoy the attention at all. i get asked this same annoying question each shift i work(i'm a waitress btw)...typical scenario... me: so, what can i get for you? them: *looking at my nametag* how do you say your name? me: So-lay...now, what can i get for you? them: where are you from? me: are you gonna work with me or are you gonna continue asking me more personal questions. bec i won't do any more personal questions from you. EVERYTIME it always starts off with the pronunciation of my name and branches off into alot more personal/invasive questions. if it weren't for the fact that i wear a nametag at my job, they wouldn't even be asking my name(there have been a few times i've gotten away with not wearing my nametag at work, and no one asked). i've had people try to stop me when i was extremely busy JUST to ask me those questions. and i've always had tables that weren't mine hail me down to start grilling me, one of them telling me "we just made a bet with each other wondering where you're from. so where you from?". and to be frank, i'd rather not get any attention at all than to be constantly getting that kind of attention. and for that above dialogue, when i responded with that to them, they later told my manager on me saying i had an "attitude problem" . unless we're close personal friends, i don't care to have you "try to understand me". if the situation is relevant or if someone wants to voluntarily state their ethnicity, that's all fine and dandy, but i have the decency NOT to ask someone their ethnicity when it's completely irrelevant. unless i'm trying to hit on someone, i really don't give a rat's ass where they're "from". i can't even remember the last time i randomly asked someone about their ethnicity/background, i always just thought it was common decency not to. i get where you re coming from but being a waitress and a very pretty one at that, i think it s more about trying to start conversing with you than anything. the bet example really shows it s the case. i m not saying i like the attention, i m just saying some people here are taking it too much to heart and are acting as if we should feel sorry for them for being the center of attention. the only reason i get annoyed at some of these posts is because it makes these people sound full of themselves. i do find it annoying sometimes when some people randomly stop you in the street to guess your ethnicity (doesn t happen ALL that often though! let s not blow things out of proportion! i doubt anyone gets people hailing at them 5 times a day, everyday, to know where they come from) but i don t mind when an acquaintance (eg: classmates) ask me this question to initiate small talk and make conversation. if not for that i would have asked them the same question "where are you from" to break the ice but not expecting what they d expect when i respond. as a matter of fact, this girl in my class asked me this very question today. what bugged me wasn t the fact that she asked but the way she asked "i know you re a blend (!!!), but where are you from?" and when i stated several countries "yeah, but you can t be all of that, i think you re vietnamese or chinese" THAT, is rude. asking the question itself as an ice breaker (not talking about people coming on to busy waitresses) to get better acquainted with them isn t THAT burdensome in itself and having people whine about it as if they were solicited every minute of their lives because they re so "unique looking" makes them sound vain.
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Post by LaFace on Sept 19, 2007 2:12:07 GMT -5
Personally, I don't mind people asking about my ethnicity at all, so long as it's done respectfully, and I find that they do so in this manner for the overwhelming majority of the time.
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Post by helles on Sept 19, 2007 2:14:46 GMT -5
^ I also have issues with ppl asking me 'those' questions too.. the other day i was talking to the removal van driver in cantonese (just general making conversation) and he was asked.. "how come you speak cantonese?" my reply was, "how come you speak cantonese?".. he was like, "oh.. so you were born in HK too?!" haha.. I thought that was a good answer.
my bf was all like, "why cant you just say you are half chinese and grew up in HK??", if anyone asks him about his looks or similar, he will go into detail as to how he is this and that but he grew up in X bla bla..
I don't know why I dont just say answer properly, maybe because I feel its not anyone's business or that they really care, unless I know you well (like soleil says) and even then, my friends hardly ask what i am.. unless it comes up in convo (usually when i'm bitching about having an asian mother!)..
so i just tend to go about it in a round about way and play around with ppl/strangers. usually i just reply, "what do u think?" and dont tell them and let them keep guessing tho they never get it right, instead i get some random and interesting answers which makes them asking me worthwhile!
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Post by LaFace on Sept 19, 2007 7:09:52 GMT -5
Something I'd like to ask those who do get annoyed at times when asked about their ethnicity, is how do you feel when asked by someone that you believe is also EA?
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