Post by TeeHee on Sept 19, 2007 14:32:03 GMT -5
yes, i'm proud of my name, and no i don't care to wear any other nametag. as i mentioned, i've been hailed down from distance to be asked about my ethnicity and background(even when they didn't see my nametag).
i do find it annoying sometimes when some people randomly stop you in the street to guess your ethnicity (doesn t happen ALL that often though! let s not blow things out of proportion! i doubt anyone gets people hailing at them 5 times a day, everyday, to know where they come from) but i don t mind when an acquaintance (eg: classmates) ask me this question to initiate small talk and make conversation.
as a matter of fact, this girl in my class asked me this very question today. what bugged me wasn t the fact that she asked but the way she asked "i know you re a blend (!!!), but where are you from?" and when i stated several countries "yeah, but you can t be all of that, i think you re vietnamese or chinese" THAT, is rude. asking the question itself as an ice breaker (not talking about people coming on to busy waitresses) to get better acquainted with them isn t THAT burdensome in itself and having people whine about it as if they were solicited every minute of their lives because they re so "unique looking" makes them sound vain.
actually, i'm not blowing things out of proportion at all, and the "being hailed 5 times a day about it" DOES happen to me(i kid you not!). well, depending on how often i work and how many customers/tables i have per shift. on a real busy day, i'd actually get MORE than that. when you work in a business where you're coming across over hundreds of people each shift, the concept isn't really that far-fetched unfortunately
that rarely ever happens, i'd say about 95% of the people who ask me are not EA. and for the times where a EA or mixed person has asked, it was RELEVANT. heck, even if a non-mixed person asked but the subject was still somewhat relevant, it didn't bother me at all. i had this cool chat with a white female co-worker of mine, and the subject was about being with someone who's a "minority"(me with my white, but deaf or "disabled" bf who's a social minority in his own way, her with her asian husband) and in the process, she asked me my ethnicity. or with classmates/acquaintances, the ethnicity factor came up when we were talking about languages, so it naturally came into the conversation as opposed to randomly being brought out of the blue. most of us have been together in the same classes and are in the same circle of friends, so they just see and treat me as "Soleil" as opposed to "that *insert race* girl". the irrelevancy part is my main issue with it and what i've been trying to point out this whole time(i.e. the examples i mentioned in my above post). essentially everything that i am and my whole being is being reduced to a piece of meat.
hapalicious said:
i do find it annoying sometimes when some people randomly stop you in the street to guess your ethnicity (doesn t happen ALL that often though! let s not blow things out of proportion! i doubt anyone gets people hailing at them 5 times a day, everyday, to know where they come from) but i don t mind when an acquaintance (eg: classmates) ask me this question to initiate small talk and make conversation.
as a matter of fact, this girl in my class asked me this very question today. what bugged me wasn t the fact that she asked but the way she asked "i know you re a blend (!!!), but where are you from?" and when i stated several countries "yeah, but you can t be all of that, i think you re vietnamese or chinese" THAT, is rude. asking the question itself as an ice breaker (not talking about people coming on to busy waitresses) to get better acquainted with them isn t THAT burdensome in itself and having people whine about it as if they were solicited every minute of their lives because they re so "unique looking" makes them sound vain.
actually, i'm not blowing things out of proportion at all, and the "being hailed 5 times a day about it" DOES happen to me(i kid you not!). well, depending on how often i work and how many customers/tables i have per shift. on a real busy day, i'd actually get MORE than that. when you work in a business where you're coming across over hundreds of people each shift, the concept isn't really that far-fetched unfortunately
laface said:
Something I'd like to ask those who do get annoyed at times when asked about their ethnicity, is how do you feel when asked by someone that you believe is also EA?that rarely ever happens, i'd say about 95% of the people who ask me are not EA. and for the times where a EA or mixed person has asked, it was RELEVANT. heck, even if a non-mixed person asked but the subject was still somewhat relevant, it didn't bother me at all. i had this cool chat with a white female co-worker of mine, and the subject was about being with someone who's a "minority"(me with my white, but deaf or "disabled" bf who's a social minority in his own way, her with her asian husband) and in the process, she asked me my ethnicity. or with classmates/acquaintances, the ethnicity factor came up when we were talking about languages, so it naturally came into the conversation as opposed to randomly being brought out of the blue. most of us have been together in the same classes and are in the same circle of friends, so they just see and treat me as "Soleil" as opposed to "that *insert race* girl". the irrelevancy part is my main issue with it and what i've been trying to point out this whole time(i.e. the examples i mentioned in my above post). essentially everything that i am and my whole being is being reduced to a piece of meat.
Hahahaha!
