Ian86
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Post by Ian86 on Nov 2, 2005 5:12:16 GMT -5
I've got one word for your predicament Hapalicious ---- bigotry. Recognize it, avoid it, hate it, overcome it. That is what will make you a better person. Its not easy but deal with it, take care. That's probably the most realistic solution dude.
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Post by faithless on Nov 3, 2005 3:12:38 GMT -5
Well, Weilee...i don t actually understand : Is your mother Asian and does she think she s white ? no kidding : i really wish i could understand .... the whole wish i were white/wish i were asian thing is over for me now...i m actually glad i m EA ...but i never gave your status a thought : asian wishing you were EA ? am i right ? or did i misunderstand ? hey pal, if the site was created it was probably in order for EA to communicate w/ other EA who could relate....maybe we can ( wink !) ! Thank you hapalicious for trying to understand. I don't bother trying to explain to people but maybe someone out there (other than my siblings) can understand. I guess trying to understand is the most important!!! LOL!! Our dad says that our mom was really a very normal Chinese girl, even after moving to Los Angeles, until she had her first kid (my brother). She started acting strange, but like a lot of Asian families, we just kept it under the table. Going to a psychiatrist was SO out of the question. Even my dad today seems to hate the idea. It started with her when other (white) people would make some comments about her being Chinese. She would look at them and say "I'm not Chinese!" That would usually just shut the person up and my dad just assumed it was her was of telling them they were stupid. Slowly though things did change in her behavior that made him realize that there was something more going on. She slowly started taking down pictures of her family and replacing them with pictures of white movie stars and politicians. She even bought some picture frames with pictures of random white people in them (like they come in the store) and just leaving them there. I remember those pictures coming home from when I was about five. Talk about strange, LOL! She would refer to them as "Cousin Janie" and we kids thought she was just being funny and creative but my dad knew something was really wrong. Over time it got worse and worse and then a few years later we realized that she really thought she was white. It was some kind of delusion brought on by a base mental illness and the pressures of the white-dominated society that looked down upon her (the family therapist thinks). I don't know what it is but we cannot talk to her about it without her getting really agitated and sad. So we all made a decision (with the therapist) to just "go with it" instead of trying to force her to see things our way (the reality way). Her family doesn't understand at all but they say things like "we knew she was crazy" and "she was the crazy one" and honestly they have shunned us and don't seem to care that she doesn't consider them her family. My dad's side of the family goes along with it when they come over but some of the kids make fun of her by asking if she was related to Thomas Jefferson (or Britney Spears, ha ha) and she usually makes something up. Anyway in her mind she is white and we are half-white. So that's a long way to explain how I have a "eurasian mind" but that's how I was raised. My mom used to tell me that kids might tease me for being half-Chinese, uh, OK mom! LOL! She would tell us about Europe and how our ancestors came from there and to be proud, etc. After a while all that stuff kind of sunk in. For me, anyway. My brother and sister don't see it that way and to tell the truth they are worried that I might have gotten my mom's crazy gene! LOL! I hope not!!! Well, I told you it would be hard to understand and probably nobody does, but that's OK too. I figured a while ago that it might be a lonely mindset and just though I would check in here to see if maybe someone did understand or that there is someone who would be able to relate to me one way or another. Dude! Is that for real? Sorry if it is man.
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Post by picket on Nov 3, 2005 3:16:35 GMT -5
It's actually worse and pretty sad. I tried to make it kind of funny or at least neutral when I wrote it but, yeah, it is what it is. At least it's stable for now.
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Post by ConceptDesign on Nov 3, 2005 22:21:42 GMT -5
When I was younger and growing up in a rural hellhole, I did on occasian think how much easier life would be if I was full white. But as an adult and given the choice I'd stay EA.
Never, ever wanted to be full Asian. In a place like Oz being a slope is more hassle than its worth.
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Post by dragan. on Nov 4, 2005 17:04:22 GMT -5
well ive never wished to be fully asian or white, but i did wish i looked more mixed. everyone just assumes im white when they first see me. so mayb if i looked more asian ppl could tell i was mixed. even though my mom who is flip thinks its better that i look more white....weird.
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Post by indy on Nov 6, 2005 7:18:35 GMT -5
I've never wanted to be full asian since it would probably make life more differcult for me. Nothing would annoy me more than being treated like a foreigner in my own country. That said, I've never really wanted to be full Caucasian either. I appreciate having the dual heritage. I wouldn't trade it in.
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Ginny
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Post by Ginny on Nov 7, 2005 11:08:03 GMT -5
I never wanted to be full asian/white. Well, i don't really look very asian, maybe that's why. What I wanted, though, is that awesome black asian hair... =/
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naka
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Post by naka on Nov 16, 2005 2:29:26 GMT -5
When I was younger, it crossed my mind due to thinking my life would seem easier. Of course now I try to view most things positively and am pretty grateful for my interesting background:)
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Post by sparrow on Nov 27, 2005 1:50:56 GMT -5
I used to wish that I was white sometimes when I was a kid due to being teased for being asian. But now I have no such desire.
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Post by halfy on Nov 27, 2005 10:46:14 GMT -5
As someone has already pointed out you can't change who you are, your height, your blood type etc.
There will always be ppl who have problems with your race. That is their problem and not yours. On the otherhand there will be always be ppl who accept you as you are. You should associate with those who accept, not the racists.
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Post by z. on Dec 8, 2005 9:02:56 GMT -5
I've wished i were more white than i am now...only 1/4 atm, not like it's gonna change. but i've thought that if i dye my hair a dark shade of brown (eye brows included, for more natural/authentic look) as well as wearing green contacts, i'll looks more western. this is mainly coz i guess asian's don't hae the best rep here, there are usually asosiations with druggies, or a presumed intelligence.
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Post by undercoverasian on Dec 8, 2005 9:25:19 GMT -5
Wished i looked more asian sometimes so that when I date other asian women I wouldn't be called asian fetishist. One very good looking Filipina woman I was trying to hook up with at the club said I had all the markings of a asian fetishist. Didn't give me a chance to tell er I was also half flip.
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Yoomy
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Post by Yoomy on Dec 8, 2005 12:07:26 GMT -5
why would someone want to wish they are something they arent..
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Post by mintyfresh_aah on Dec 10, 2005 22:16:03 GMT -5
During my schooldays, I did occasionally wish I was white. Now it's not really an issue...
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Thir Jiang Li
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1/2 Norwegian, 1/4 Singapore-Chinese and 1/4 Singapore-Filipino
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Post by Thir Jiang Li on Jan 2, 2006 18:24:27 GMT -5
When my mom told me I was EA (I was about 5) I felt so proud and unique, because I don't think there was one single EA at my school except from myself (and there were around 700 pupils). I always loved being EA, and I still do! But now that I'm a teenager, I've wondered if life would have been easier if I was either full white or full asian. I always thought that I belonged in Norway, and I always felt very norwegian, even though I was very pround of my asian heritage. But after I visited Asia again (China this time) a few months ago, I'm not sure if I belong in Norway anymore! I loved China, and fell in love with the people and the culture. When I got home I never felt more asian my whole life! And maybe it sounds wierd, but I sort of got a little "identity crisis", because I wasn't sure where I belonged anymore. Part of me wished so badly I was full asian, so I would fit into the asian "society". Being only half-asian was like being allowed to get a glimpse of something, but never being allowed to participate...if u know what I mean Anyway, another part of me just wanted to be full white like all the other teenagers in Norway, so I wouldn't have to feel like a complete misfit. Anyway, even though being eurasian can be VERY confusing, I would't change it for the world! Even though it can be difficult at times, it's great living with two completely different cultures, two completely different families...it's like living in two worlds...
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