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Post by rosadreams on Sept 6, 2009 9:57:16 GMT -5
I found it really hard to vote XD
I'm not sure.. I used to think I liked eurasian guys, but in reality, I just.. DON'T. It's more like "Oh, he's eurasian! Im eurasian too! Hug!"
I'd date white or asian, but right now I have a slight preference towards Asians, despite being brought up basically as British as any full-British girl.
I'd date black/latino/indian guys, but I couldn't see myself settling down with them.
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Post by Ganbare! on Sept 6, 2009 10:45:01 GMT -5
The idea of dating/marrying EA is nice, but I'd argue its already so tough to find someone who has the same values/core beliefs (and other basic relationship pre-condns), why add race and make "perfect happiness/bliss" impossible? Story of my life. You nailed it...
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Post by ay1128 on Sept 20, 2009 0:25:06 GMT -5
i always believe there is beauty and attractiveness in every different race "asian, black, hispanic, white, etc." So i wouldn't really go out of the way and only look for girls of a particular race; but with that said, i never dated a eurasian girl before; and my situation is a bit different than most eurasians, since in a way, i'm not really eurasian since i'm not half white/half asian, but at the same time i also have Dutch ancestry, and depending on the person, i do get questioned about my ethnicity quite often, mostly from Asians. So since this thread is about "Eurasian dating Eurasian", i'm not quite sure if i fit the mold if that EA girl is also looking for a EA "half white/half asian" guy.
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Post by hypeforlife91 on Sept 20, 2009 6:19:11 GMT -5
My mom would occasionally ask me ... "so, are you going to marry an Asian guy or a White guy?" A bit odd since I'm still so young. Tear** My mom wants to get rid of me already. =( Well I don't know what to tell her really. But I love my bf now. <3 My mom doesn't know about him YET cause I know she will freak out if I told her right now. I seriously see myself marrying him some day, even though he can be mean sometimes lol. Well, he's half-Portuguese and half-Italian. So right now, I'm dating a white guy. He's my first love and we've been together for 3 years and 1 month now. Since I have grown up in a "more western way of life", I think I prefer whites or Eurasians. That is not to say that Asian guys aren't great. They are actually mostly very nice. It's just my preference and I'm sure others have them too. Some black guys are also very nice. It's absolutely not a racist thing to not want to marry one, but I just don't see myself with one. And I am definitely not rejecting them because of race. Where I grew up, I wasn't ever around black people. I had very few friends who are black. Maybe only 1 and the other one is half-white/ half-black. I just seem so unfamiliar with their way of life, their habits, and I know it will be hard for me to adjust to it and be with them for life. Plus, it just happens that the people I hang around with right now are only like 2% black. Just the way it is. By the way, is it true that most black guys have that gangsta style going on? It's like all the black guys I've ever met has it. I've never met any who aren't "gangster-ish". I do see some on TV and stuff who dress like skaters and have the cool, long, surfer-curly hair...Just curious.
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Post by Subuatai on Sept 20, 2009 6:40:58 GMT -5
@ay
Yes you are right. People these days have to get race out of their heads, when I was young I admit I used to have these preferences, my first gf was Hungarian, so I liked "white girls", the next was Native Australian (aboriginal), so I liked "black girls", then the next was Irish, so I liked "white girls" again, then the next was Korean, so I liked "asian girls".
Nowadays when I'm not with my wife people who haven't met her still ask "what race is she?". And I struggle to see why race should have anything to do with relationships. Culture is also another thing but individuals are still individuals. My wife is "Eurasian" but she hates the title, in fact she hates most labels except for her own name, gender, etc.
And if you are wondering if you "fit the mold" if an EA girl is looking for another EA to date. Truth is: You dont, nor do I. Because our views don't revolve around race. But if you are wondering if you "fit the mod" if a gorgeous "Pink/Yellow/Brown/Brown/Eurasian/or blahblah" woman is looking for a date who doesn't care about race, truth is, you fit perfectly.
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Post by palaver on Sept 20, 2009 17:29:23 GMT -5
Some black guys are also very nice. It's absolutely not a racist thing to not want to marry one, but I just don't see myself with one. Do you have to marry every guy you date? Why don't you try one out first. All sales aren't final, but I hear that once you go black...
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Post by betahat on Sept 20, 2009 18:03:44 GMT -5
^but I hear that once you go black...
Not true in my experience. But maybe that only applies to women?
^By the way, is it true that most black guys have that gangsta style going on?
No, I have an Ethiopian friend who dresses the exact opposite of gangster style [of course, they don't always count as "black" in North America, unlike in Europe where the identification between black and recent African immigrant is almost one to one.]
And actually, in most places where blacks wear the gangsta styles you will also find that whites and latinos (and even, gasp, Asians) will sport the same gangsta styles. It depends a lot on the neighborhood, socioeconomic status, etc. I certainly wouldn't describe Obama and his family as gangsta. Ditto Oprah, Cosby, Denzel, Michael Jordan, Al Sharpton, Jesse Jackson, etc.
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Post by ay1128 on Sept 20, 2009 21:36:40 GMT -5
Yeah, living in Orange County, CA, i haven't really encountered that many black peoples. And i only really had one black friend before, surprisingly, he was also half white/half black, he wasn't the stereotypical black people, he wasn't into the whole gangster scene, instead he's into the whole indie scene, and he was also very very smart and good in school (not saying all black people aren't smart or good in school).
And yes the majority of black people do seem to dress and act very gangster-ish... At least that's how it is in Los Angeles; but for some reason i think the gangster scene seem to be a growing trend among young Americans regardless of the neighborhood. And its not just the black people that seems to be into it since i also seen a lot of white, latino and even asian into the whole gangster scene.
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Post by hypeforlife91 on Sept 20, 2009 22:22:54 GMT -5
Some black guys are also very nice. It's absolutely not a racist thing to not want to marry one, but I just don't see myself with one. Do you have to marry every guy you date? Why don't you try one out first. All sales aren't final, but I hear that once you go black... I am already dating someone at the moment and I believe that when you date, you should hope that you will be with them as long as you can. Even marriage! I simply do not want to try things out for a brief time when I am almost certain that it isn't what I want. Just my preference. =)
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Post by hypeforlife91 on Sept 20, 2009 22:25:46 GMT -5
Yeah, living in Orange County, CA, i haven't really encountered that many black peoples. And i only really had one black friend before, surprisingly, he was also half white/half black, he wasn't the stereotypical black people, he wasn't into the whole gangster scene, instead he's into the whole indie scene, and he was also very very smart and good in school (not saying all black people aren't smart or good in school). And yes the majority of black people do seem to dress and act very gangster-ish... At least that's how it is in Los Angeles; but for some reason i think the gangster scene seem to be a growing trend among young Americans regardless of the neighborhood. And its not just the black people that seems to be into it since i also seen a lot of white, latino and even asian into the whole gangster scene. Ya lol. I am not that into the gangsta style myself. Although the bf often listens to rap. He always makes fun of me for not appreciating it. He is still more of the "skater" type to me. The way he dresses...acts...looks..is very "surfer-like". xD
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Post by ay1128 on Sept 20, 2009 23:25:28 GMT -5
this is the way a relationship is going to work, if u wanna get into a relationship, u should do your best to make it last; unfortunately there are less and less people with this belief these days...
yeah, in terms of fashion, i'm not that much into the whole hip-hop/street scene; but i do also listen to rap music... i think as you grow older, you'll grow more and more out of the scene and care less about the clothing that u purchase. like a few years ago, when i first started college, i was really into the whole LA Hipster scene, and u put so much emphasis into what you buy and wear; but now i'm 21 almost turning 22, u slowly grow out of it; and not to mention, it just kills your moneys...
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Post by palaver on Sept 21, 2009 2:03:41 GMT -5
I am already dating someone at the moment and I believe that when you date, you should hope that you will be with them as long as you can. Even marriage! I simply do not want to try things out for a brief time when I am almost certain that it isn't what I want. Just my preference. =) I wasn't suggesting that you dump your boyfriend/ sleep around. Instead, give love a chance. You say you can't picture yourself with a black man. But that is exactly what you did. You imagined yourself with a black man and said no. I don't know how much a mental picture can tell you about a person you've never met before, so I say you don't need an imagination. Dating a African American is not a theoretical impossibility. It's contradictory to say that you're not racist before saying something that qualifies you as being racist. When you date, you rehearse for marriage, i.e. you enter into a monogamous relationship as if you're already married. So the marriage aspect is already in the mix. However, most rehearsals don't end in a performance. For good reasons, many people aren't prepared to stand on that stage. You should hope for a good marriage, a crowd-pleaser, and not something quick, easy, and mediocre. Dating one race for a short amount of time before settling for one bloke, is as brief and limited as you can get. People crave commitment, but what they really need is experience. Anyone can get married, all you have to do is lower your standards.
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Post by ay1128 on Sept 21, 2009 3:39:38 GMT -5
i think its a bit unfair to label a person racist for having their own preferences. we all have our own preferences when it comes to dating. i have met attractive black women before, but i can't really picture myself being with them, and they probably feel the same way toward me too; since we just have not that many thing we could relate to... but that shouldn't make me a racist.
i think its right that we should give everyone a chance, but at the same time, i do also have somewhat a similar belief that if you get into a relationship with someone, you should take it seriously and not treat it as a experiment, since it be fair to your partner too. i think her bf is really lucky to have met a girl like her who have that kind of belief when it comes to relationship; since there are just not that many people out there that treats relationships like that. But the fact that this is "hypes" first love may also be a factor, but to be together for over 3 years is pretty impressive; since from a personal standpoint, i haven't had a relationship last longer than a year.
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Post by Subuatai on Sept 21, 2009 7:04:49 GMT -5
I beg to differ, I married my wife because she not only met my standards but surpassed them. Standards are there for a reason, but racial standards however - that's rather foolish I agree.
Over the past years my wife (gf at the time) and I had a lot of fallouts because I hated Norse (Swedish) and Sino (Chinese) people yet she's a mix of both. Yet she never correlated race with me. I was a racist in the past, still am in some ways. We loved each other from the start, race was an obstacle that shouldn't even have to be there.
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Post by hypeforlife91 on Sept 22, 2009 2:19:00 GMT -5
i think its a bit unfair to label a person racist for having their own preferences. we all have our own preferences when it comes to dating. i have met attractive black women before, but i can't really picture myself being with them, and they probably feel the same way toward me too; since we just have not that many thing we could relate to... but that shouldn't make me a racist. i think its right that we should give everyone a chance, but at the same time, i do also have somewhat a similar belief that if you get into a relationship with someone, you should take it seriously and not treat it as a experiment, since it be fair to your partner too. i think her bf is really lucky to have met a girl like her who have that kind of belief when it comes to relationship; since there are just not that many people out there that treats relationships like that. But the fact that this is "hypes" first love may also be a factor, but to be together for over 3 years is pretty impressive; since from a personal standpoint, i haven't had a relationship last longer than a year. I am glad somebody shares my thoughts. I am absolutely not a racist. I have black friends, even though not many live around here. I have also had a few in the past. Preferences are preferences. Simple as that. It's just like how you prefer certain cakes/foods to others. I like salty, but you may like sweet. I'm used to eating salty foods and isn't thinking about changing anytime soon. I just prefer not to eat black forest cake. Even though they can be tasty. . No offense to black forest cake afficianados nor black people. <3 But calling me a racist for that is just like calling people who love fast food fat. Not true. *Edit*: AND also the topic starter asked this question and has a poll on it. Would you call all those people racist for prefering one race over another? Hmm... . Did you vote yourself as well?
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