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Post by Emily on Apr 10, 2008 15:10:16 GMT -5
If the EA experience is a huge part of one's life, then I'd say that an EA/EA relationship by statistics could be more successful. I think that has a lot to do with someone purposefully seeking out an EA partner. For my part, I embrace my EA-ness, but it's far from being the be all and end all. I never had and EA-related identity issues, so I don't feel compelled to date another Eurasian because he's more likely to "get" me. That said, I've only dated/was interested in Asian guys. Given that they were all raised here, in similar environments and with a similar upbringing, I have to say they're westernised Asians (while still embracing their Asian heritage). To a certain extent, I guess that gives them something of an EA-quality to them. Not saying that westernised Asian = EA (I think I remember someone being flamed enough as it is for suggesting this in the past ). But I can find a lot of similarities between the former and my EA experience.
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Post by meep on Apr 11, 2008 1:13:10 GMT -5
After a bout of having relations eurasians (like, four in a row), i've come to the conclusion that looking for, only dating and have preconcieved notions of EAs being the ideal partner is really really narrow minded and a tad narcissistc.. We all love ourselves because our parents broke the race bond. And yet here we are, so many of us, looking for the same peoples, of the same colour and eurasian experiences. Multicultural and loving of all races, we are not. I agree.
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Post by Tamy on Apr 11, 2008 2:21:53 GMT -5
I've given up dating EA men. Typically arrogant with bad tempers (the ones I know at least) I really don't want to stereotype. But I need a sure thing. And the EA man is not a sure thing.
cheers
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Post by thekrez on Apr 11, 2008 5:13:06 GMT -5
^ Its a shame that this isnt an uncommon story. But it goes to show how people can write off a whole section of people due to a bad experience with a few. Not just in dating but in other areas as well.
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Post by Roam'n on Apr 11, 2008 9:26:31 GMT -5
It doesn't matter whether I date EA or not. I don't consider it a factor in anything.
We tend to 'filter out' a type of person in terms of what can or can't work for us. General things like personality, cuteness, niceness, hard working, fun, integrity, etc.. but as the years go by, I find that their genetic makeup is an absolutely useless metric to consider.
There are good looking people of all races/mixes. And there are vain/narcisstic people of all races. Sure, some of them may overlap, but I think their mix has nothing to do with their attitude.
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Post by cm on Apr 11, 2008 10:12:26 GMT -5
^ Its a shame that this isnt an uncommon story. But it goes to show how people can write off a whole section of people due to a bad experience with a few. Not just in dating but in other areas as well. Once this Peruvian lunch lady at my cafeteria didn't give me enough mashed potatoes. I will never date or befriend a Peruvian ever since, and have actually swore allegiance to bring down Peru.
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Post by halfbreed on Apr 11, 2008 11:07:04 GMT -5
^ Like me and Indians. 1) This Indian dude interrupted me as I was ordering ice-cream. 2) At the MRT station, his Indian dude was coming way too close behind me I'm talking centimetres, people!
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Post by fumanchu on Apr 11, 2008 15:33:30 GMT -5
personally I've had it up to here with humans. I'm only dating dolphins from now on.
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Post by Aznlatina on Apr 11, 2008 21:22:32 GMT -5
^ Oh man, I wish there were more EAs out there to date. I can't seem to find any.
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Post by Altan on Apr 11, 2008 21:38:15 GMT -5
Weird how I always randomly hooked up with EA girls in the past and Blondes.
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Post by xandra on Apr 12, 2008 0:23:35 GMT -5
I've given up dating EA men. Typically arrogant with bad tempers (the ones I know at least) I really don't want to stereotype. But I need a sure thing. And the EA man is not a sure thing. cheers nothing in love is a sure thing. for bahzad and i, both of us being EA is one commonality among many - we're both middle kids with an older sibling in the health field, professional asian father, etc. personally i do feel more comfortable with him, and i never felt like i had to question his motives for dating me. but really the only thing that matters to me is that we're both very happy together.
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Post by Tamy on Apr 12, 2008 1:18:16 GMT -5
^ that's very sweet. I'm glad things worked out so well for the two or you Like I said before I don't want to stereotype. I have many male EA friends, and I know these men well. I adore them. But I wouldn't date them. Unless anyone is willing to prove me wrong, its a personal preference. Anyways, I enjoy being single right now. wouldn't have it any other way. I've always seemed to have a bf until now, and whether I date EA men or not, I'm not really interested in anyone, or starting anything up.......but that's beside the point. being single is glorious.
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Post by straylight on Apr 12, 2008 2:31:56 GMT -5
In what are EA men arrogant? Just curious.. I, for one, play dumb all the time. It amuses me to do this instead of offering people "what I know" right away, "one upping" people, and acting like I know better. Hardly narcissistic either. I try to have a positive self-image and all that, but I prefer to be natural and a little messy. If someone compliments me, I say thanks, but I try to change the subject. I don't beg for attention all night. Seriously, if I found myself doing that, I'd find a dark corner and slap the sh*t out of myself. I don't have a bad temper. I don't take crap either -- but my temper is cool. Even when someone absolutely needs to be silenced and shut up, I usually warn them with a smile on my face. Am I proud of my mixed heritage? Yeah, now I think it's cool, I guess. I grew up feeling out of place though, and that will never ultimately leave the back of my mind. I'm definitely not at this site to get all "Hey, it's my EA peeps! Lets all talk about how freaking cool and pretty we all are!" I'm just curious about everyone's experiences. [edit] Oh yes, single can be cool. I don't like it for too long though, else I'll start posting on message boards late at night all the time, like I am now.
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Post by maow on Apr 12, 2008 4:00:07 GMT -5
Once this Peruvian lunch lady at my cafeteria didn't give me enough mashed potatoes. I will never date or befriend a Peruvian ever since, and have actually swore allegiance to bring down Peru. lol
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Post by laidbacksonic74 on Apr 12, 2008 5:56:42 GMT -5
mostly I dated asians and whites. one time I dated an eurasian ..she was suriname/chinese/dutch ... she's gotten many attention from other men ..without asking she already gotten a discount ...very funny too watch. But pple see us as brother and sister :S ...but we are good friends.
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