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Post by Tamy on Apr 12, 2008 13:12:32 GMT -5
In what are EA men arrogant? Just curious.. I, for one, play dumb all the time. It amuses me to do this instead of offering people "what I know" right away, "one upping" people, and acting like I know better. Hardly narcissistic either. I try to have a positive self-image and all that, but I prefer to be natural and a little messy. If someone compliments me, I say thanks, but I try to change the subject. I don't beg for attention all night. Seriously, if I found myself doing that, I'd find a dark corner and slap the sh*t out of myself. I don't have a bad temper. I don't take crap either -- but my temper is cool. Even when someone absolutely needs to be silenced and shut up, I usually warn them with a smile on my face. Am I proud of my mixed heritage? Yeah, now I think it's cool, I guess. I grew up feeling out of place though, and that will never ultimately leave the back of my mind. I'm definitely not at this site to get all "Hey, it's my EA peeps! Lets all talk about how freaking cool and pretty we all are!" I'm just curious about everyone's experiences. [edit] Oh yes, single can be cool. I don't like it for too long though, else I'll start posting on message boards late at night all the time, like I am now. that's good to hear. you seem to know what you want. the one's I'm talking about are the arrogant yet EXTREMELY self conscious ones that desperately need attention. The ones that like to boast openly about their self importance not necessary to impress others, but to reinforce feelings that they are most desirable to women. often when I meet those kinds of men (and yes they come in EA and non EA form) I'm openly disgusted and choose to walk away during mid sentence. I don't really like when people talk AT me. thanks.
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Post by Phil on Apr 12, 2008 23:38:21 GMT -5
personally I've had it up to here with humans. I'm only dating dolphins from now on. I exclusively date Eurasian Sirenians. Manatee-Dugongs mixes whose fathers are the Dugong and mothers are the Manatee or if both of her parents are mixed.
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Post by alisa on Apr 14, 2008 22:46:41 GMT -5
It doesn't matter whether I date EA or not. I don't consider it a factor in anything. We tend to 'filter out' a type of person in terms of what can or can't work for us. General things like personality, cuteness, niceness, hard working, fun, integrity, etc.. but as the years go by, I find that their genetic makeup is an absolutely useless metric to consider. There are good looking people of all races/mixes. And there are vain/narcisstic people of all races. Sure, some of them may overlap, but I think their mix has nothing to do with their attitude. I agree completely. I've never chosen a partner because of their race. Unless you consider their cultural upbringing to be a very specific contributing factor to their personality (which in many cases it is if you consider stereotyping), then yes, perhaps, however, all my past partners have had very different upbringings. Though I've never dated an EA or an asian for that matter.
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Post by long on Apr 14, 2008 23:57:30 GMT -5
I really don't want to stereotype. But I need a sure thing. And the EA man is not a sure thing. So what race is a sure thing? Are EA girls a sure thing? I'll go ahead and say... there's no such thing. the one's I'm talking about are the arrogant yet EXTREMELY self conscious ones that desperately need attention. The ones that like to boast openly about their self importance not necessary to impress others, but to reinforce feelings that they are most desirable to women. Openly arrogant people are ALWAYS insecure/self-conscious types in my experience (arrogant to me = show-off). Realizing this helps me go from contempt to pity for them. Would anyone disagree that arrogance goes hand in hand with insecurity?
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Post by teek on Apr 15, 2008 0:03:46 GMT -5
^ 100% agree
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Post by penguinopolipitese on Apr 15, 2008 0:06:24 GMT -5
one must not dismiss the allure of being exoticized by a monoracial. Especially if one has, shall we say... certain inadequacies.
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Post by teek on Apr 15, 2008 0:08:38 GMT -5
one must not dismiss the allure of being exoticized by a monoracial. Especially if one has, shall we say... certain inadequacies. huh, You mean like hot chicks that don't know their hot??
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Post by Tamy on Apr 16, 2008 15:46:31 GMT -5
I really don't want to stereotype. But I need a sure thing. And the EA man is not a sure thing. So what race is a sure thing? Are EA girls a sure thing? I'll go ahead and say... there's no such thing. the one's I'm talking about are the arrogant yet EXTREMELY self conscious ones that desperately need attention. The ones that like to boast openly about their self importance not necessary to impress others, but to reinforce feelings that they are most desirable to women. Openly arrogant people are ALWAYS insecure/self-conscious types in my experience (arrogant to me = show-off). Realizing this helps me go from contempt to pity for them. Would anyone disagree that arrogance goes hand in hand with insecurity? I dunno about EA girls. can't say I've dated one. But I know I'm not. I never claimed to be a sure thing in the way I think you mean it anyways. I do have a pretty good sense of self identity though....which to me is what I mean't by a sure thing. I never claimed that any entire race was a sure thing...but that's not really the point......I like dating guys that know what they want and who they are. not really fond of the identity crisis thing (and lack of ambition, but that's not the point)....and EA guys (that I've experienced) seems to have plenty of that. Being EA isn't who I am......it is a PART of who I am...and my physical appearance, but I do not define myself by it. In my opinion human beings are all the same....we all look different, speak different languages and lead different lives based on culture and different nurturing styles.... I think everyone goes through a point in their lives where they question their own identity and what they want from the world and out of their own lives. I know I did, but I'm done with the part of my life, where I figure out who I am based on being EA....and I apologize if this offends anyone but I really don't have the patience to hold someone's hand while they figure out their own EA identity. I don't have time for that...nor do I want to make time for it. When I date a guy that isn't EA, he doesn't have EA issues......and unless I am to meet an EA guy who has resolved his EA identity crisis, that interests me...I'm going lay off on dating them. nothing personal....like I said.... I just don't have the time/patience to hold someone's hand through this part of their life. call me when the identity crisis is over. (on a side note....I hope everyone know I'm talking about my own age group here....19-24) And to touch on the part about arrogance....often arrogance and self esteem issues comes from identity crisis. You also say that they come hand in hand, yet sometimes guys really think they are THAT great. That has nothing to do with identity crisis (at least I don't think - more like delusion) though....just a general turn off.
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Post by cm on Apr 16, 2008 17:43:30 GMT -5
In my opinion human beings are all the same... "except that I'm racist and like to stereotype them in different groups and make stupid ignorant statements"
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Post by straylight on Apr 16, 2008 17:50:32 GMT -5
Well said. Trying to date anyone with too many identity issues is frustrating. A lot of people (EA or not) have some hangups. Sadly, age isn't a factor there either. Some people could be that way well in their 40's.
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Post by straylight on Apr 16, 2008 20:28:59 GMT -5
I don't know any rich, powerful, or famous people. Can't say if they're arrogant or not.
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Post by Emily on Apr 17, 2008 12:01:37 GMT -5
Some arrogance can be backed up. IE power, money, fame, popularity, etc. Arrogance does not necessarily, always, go hand in hand with insecurity. Why the need to be arrogant if one is successful? IMO, even if someone is "justified" in thinking they're hot stuff, something is missing in their life if they feel the need to be a prick.
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Post by teek on Apr 17, 2008 18:12:30 GMT -5
y0, what's with all the philosophical talk about identity. I just wanted to see if you guys liked shagging eurasian's or not....
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Post by jak on Apr 17, 2008 18:17:03 GMT -5
^orly?!
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Post by teek on Apr 17, 2008 18:23:42 GMT -5
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