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Post by Subuatai on Dec 4, 2008 20:01:30 GMT -5
Yes, in the end we have to keep our options open. Everyone's experiences differ, I may have found Eurasians more suitable in the past naturally, but I've also met Eurasians I would rather have nothing to do with. Despite the fact that we are both mixed, my blood and my girlfriend's blood does not naturally mix well. Mongols and Chinese are at the opposite sides of the Great wall. With cultural and individual hatreds against each other some Mongols feel I am polluting the future of my people by mixing in with a Sino woman (even though she is only half). Other Mongols traditionally uphold our culture in which looks to the heart of the individual, not the background. So I guess she's ANYTHING but a sister heh. We share mutual understanding of racial stupidity sure but that's pretty much it. We are still at the end individuals. In the end though, together we managed to "break the wall" -> a song in tribute to this: www.youtube.com/watch?v=vB1vaZfD2C0 haha, and a cartoon: www.youtube.com/watch?v=PA1IsvCUqBo&feature=related lol Your girlfriend is Uyghur?! From East Turkistan?
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Post by Paddy on Dec 4, 2008 20:18:58 GMT -5
She's Muslim but not Uyghur. She's Hui minority from Gansu province which borders East Turkestan. Her father's ancestors, I believe, are from East Turkestan.
The Hui minority were a new ethnic category 'created' during the Tang dynasty (618-907ad) to account for the mixed race people that were lived in the region who were of Muslim religion. They were an ethnically and culturally heterogeneous group with Arab, Turkic, Mongol and all sorts of other non-Han influences. For the most part, it was silk route trading the facilitated this mixing.
Today, the Hui though clearly a mixed people, mostly have a more typically Chinese look to them. The guys wear white Islamic caps and the women wear headscarves (though my girlfriend doesn't) and it is Islam that sets them apart from the Han.
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Post by Subuatai on Dec 4, 2008 20:23:20 GMT -5
Hmmm, thats very interesting that I've never heard of them. Thanks for sharing though
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Post by Yoomy on Dec 5, 2008 17:42:44 GMT -5
I find that being with a eurasian is like being with your brother/sister. For me, its weird to have a boyfriend of the same race as its not what I have been brought up with (parents not being of the same race). Its great having a eurasian friend, but to have a eurasian boyfriend... would be weird. Although you could argue that the term 'eurasian' is rather dense, as in there are many different types of eurasians, and that dating one would not be dating someone that is your own 'race', I believe that by the general connection that I develop with another eurasian is more sibling like... that could never generate into anything other than a close friendship... Seconded. When I see a hot EA, I feel proud. Not turned on. So far, I have never been physically attracted to another EA, but I do look at them with admiration because most of the EA's I have seen are beautiful and I think heyy they got same hair as meeee.. or heyyy they got same fair skin as meee
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Post by sim on Dec 28, 2008 11:38:08 GMT -5
When I see a hot EA, I feel proud. Not turned on.
I'd agree with that statement, generally. I've been attracted to EAs not of the same mix as me (i.e. not Chinese/British) but EAs of the same mix tend to have a bit of a brotherly feel to them...so close it's a bit sick.
However, having said that, last night I was out and some random guy just walked up to me and said "your mum is chinese isn't she", with complete confidence. Clearly the half chinese guess didn't surprise me, but he was so sure it was my mum, not my dad. Turns out he was half Chinese (mum as well) half Czech from California. Definitely does NOT look Chinese (I don't know what he looks like!) and it took a lot of convincing on his part for me to believe him. A bit young for me...but very HOT. So, I guess the statement only holds true if they are EAs who look like easily identifiable Chinese/white EAs, or who remind me of my brother. Although, having said that, there was something a bit too close for comfort about him..but it could just be the whole EA thing. Maybe I just don't feel comfortable with it because of the"close familiar" vibe coming from some random I don't know.
At the same time, I've only dated white guys...and every single one of them but one I always felt could not get my Chinese side...just didn't understand it..or I guess just didn't understand what it is like to have parents from different cultures. The one exception had lived in Japan for 2 years (with Chinese, Japanese and latino previous girlfriends) so was very happy with Asian culture as such..however even then it just didn't feel like he completely understood..probably because he was not EA. It's just different.
My brother is currently dating a British Born Chinese...(I guess the closest thing to EA), my EA cousin married a girl from hawaii who is 1/4 Japanese (she's blondeish and blue eyed so hardly EA looking though)...so I guess there is something about just being able to understand what it's like to be EA...which is what is so attractive about dating another EA.
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Post by swinger on Dec 28, 2008 14:07:49 GMT -5
Why would dating a EA be like dating a sibling? Look at these couples. They look mirror related but they're not. What's the difference btwn them and us? Mixed people often will grow up in areas where they are the only ones who look the way they do. That makes your siblings the only kids you see who look like you. Monoracial kids see plenty of other kids who look like they do, get fascinated, form crushes, etc. I can easily see how, for an EA who grew up in that kind of environment, dating another EA might feel like dating a sibling.
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Post by Paddy on Dec 28, 2008 18:48:21 GMT -5
Yup, I've always gone with the sibling thing. The idea is slightly of putting. Like sim said, it would probably only present itself when with a mixed kid with a similar background. This is how I always used to feel, and having gone out with a girl of a similar mix, I still feel this way. Yup, and I guess it is because my sisters were the only mixed girls I knew as I was growing up.
But going out with a non-mixed kid is also unfulfilling in its way as they never quite get you (I mean me - wouldn't presume to speak for all of 'you'!).
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Post by cm on Dec 28, 2008 19:24:24 GMT -5
Dating another EA is like dating a sibling? Lol, uh, okay. I guess throughout history and today, by that idiotic logic, people love to date people who look like their siblings.
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Post by Subuatai on Dec 29, 2008 1:28:10 GMT -5
I'm still trying to understand how anyone could see Eurasian dates as siblings.
Heh then again I guess I've never dated my own kind even with Eurasians. "You're stuck on an island screwing every race but your own" my mates say heh.
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Post by sim on Dec 29, 2008 1:47:49 GMT -5
I think it's the rarity of other EAs...the only EA (of the same mix) who is close to me who I see regularly is my brother...
If I was based in a community where everyone was EA, or somewhere like hawaii where it is common for people to be mixed, then it probably would not feel like that at all.
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Post by Subuatai on Dec 29, 2008 1:49:20 GMT -5
^ Ah, understood
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Post by sim on Dec 29, 2008 11:36:48 GMT -5
I think Kyu'ree, it's because you don't have a brother. I do.
Therefore, a lot of EAs remind me of my brother.
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Post by halfbreed on Dec 29, 2008 22:24:07 GMT -5
I don't have a brother, but I still see all EAs as 'family' thanks to EAN. :')
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Post by Subuatai on Dec 29, 2008 22:45:18 GMT -5
I appreciate hot booty whenever I see it, race is the last thing on my mind. So I see no difference when it comes to dating non-mixies of any race or mixies themselves.
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Post by Altan on Dec 30, 2008 0:48:00 GMT -5
^OK...mixies I like that term...I might start to use that elsewhere!
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