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Post by catgirl on Dec 26, 2008 11:02:52 GMT -5
Also birth control pills render a woman's scent receptors ineffective it is reported. So women on the pill are choosing the wrong guy. I saw a report of a study. yep, true that. it's cos the pill makes the woman theoretically "pregnant". As I said, she has to be fertile (i.e. not pregnant etc) in order to be perceptive for that smell. Perfume isn't necessarily a problem b/c when used the right way (not over-dosed) the perfume smells differently w/ every person. women who are w/ a man who has the "right smell" (immune system) are more satified w/ their sex life, women who are not are more apt to cheat on their partner. I found my last partner when I was on the Pill, then fell really fast out of love with him after stopping taking the pill (felt a brotherly kind of love for him instead, it was awkward) and seperated now. I have a new guy, found him without the pill. I dont know what really caused this disaster, but maybe the pill had a little to do with it Sadly enough Im back on the pill again, but not looking for a partner anyway so doesnt matter that much.
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Post by swinger on Dec 26, 2008 11:09:26 GMT -5
yep, true that. it's cos the pill makes the woman theoretically "pregnant". As I said, she has to be fertile (i.e. not pregnant etc) in order to be perceptive for that smell. Perfume isn't necessarily a problem b/c when used the right way (not over-dosed) the perfume smells differently w/ every person. women who are w/ a man who has the "right smell" (immune system) are more satified w/ their sex life, women who are not are more apt to cheat on their partner. I found my last partner when I was on the Pill, then fell really fast out of love with him after stopping taking the pill (felt a brotherly kind of love for him instead, it was awkward) and seperated now. I have a new guy, found him without the pill. I dont know what really caused this disaster, but maybe the pill had a little to do with it Sadly enough Im back on the pill again, but not looking for a partner anyway so doesnt matter that much. Oh dear, I hope I am misreading this. This is all pre-marriage? :S Everything is A-OK, right?
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Post by catgirl on Dec 27, 2008 17:44:16 GMT -5
Pre-marriage? No, we got married as you know. But are now seperated (cant divorce before next year), and Im now together with another one, who I found when I was off the pill..... I dont think Im the marriage type after this though I think I was scared because I was going abroad to study and lost my mind a little. Who knows
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Post by swinger on Dec 27, 2008 21:42:43 GMT -5
Pre-marriage? No, we got married as you know. But are now seperated (cant divorce before next year), and Im now together with another one, who I found when I was off the pill..... I dont think Im the marriage type after this though I think I was scared because I was going abroad to study and lost my mind a little. Who knows I am sorry to hear this and am sorry about the whole situation - how distressing that must be, the highs and the lows, and all so fast. Family from both sides must be full of pressure and commentary. I would have suggested you take a break from dating but that ship has already sailed. I wouldn't write off marriage - you're young (under 30, right?) and as your situation, experience, and perspective all change, you may find that it's a viable option. Perhaps for where you were in life, on many levels, you were just not ready for being married. Anyway, sorry that it didn't work out. I really liked the fairy-tale like wedding dress you had. Just goes to show you, I suppose, that you have to ready for anything.
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Post by catgirl on Jan 5, 2009 12:52:57 GMT -5
Im "only" 23. But I think there was alot of pressure on me around the time I got married and I just happened to do something unfortunate in this situation. When I went abroad to study I finally understood that he wasnt right for me. But it was very hard to end it and we gave it another shot, and because of that I just happened to "wake up" in a new relationship and first then I HAD TO end it, like there was not much choice... I think life can be quite turbulent sometimes, and in my cas things seem to happen out of the blue. But Im sure it will turn out good in the end, and we learn some things in life
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Post by Subuatai on Jan 5, 2009 22:12:14 GMT -5
^ I'm 24 now, and I'm kinda being pushed towards marriage atm especially this year =/
Ne advice?
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Post by catgirl on Jan 6, 2009 15:38:47 GMT -5
Dont ever get married!!!!! (its my advice only...)
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Post by Subuatai on Jan 7, 2009 2:27:30 GMT -5
Heh, well don't assume nething please but... erm what if there was a little one on the way? =/
+ culture/family is going to notice it soon...
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Post by catgirl on Jan 7, 2009 11:50:14 GMT -5
Really? Are you expecting?
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Post by Subuatai on Jan 7, 2009 11:52:31 GMT -5
This is embarrassing lol
But yeah =/
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Post by catgirl on Jan 7, 2009 12:47:21 GMT -5
This is embarrassing lol But yeah =/ Congratulations! But do you really need to get married? In which country do you live?
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Post by Subuatai on Jan 8, 2009 2:27:04 GMT -5
Australia atm =/ Heh thanks, well she is a Christian, and her family/friends are going to flame her if she's unmarried with a kid... I'm not really sure whether to be pushed into such a commitment (even though we are committed just not as hubby and wifey), or whether to maintain our relationship the way it is - as lovers who stick together by will not by paper. However, the Church is a major part of her life, and we're already unofficially engaged. To be honest I don't like the idea of signing contracts for the relationship, it doesn't feel right. For years she has been trying to push me to such a commitment which caused some serious problems in the past but not recently when we got back together - which made the relationship feel more natural and secure... until now... with this shock. But I dunno, we've enjoyed our space for a long time but now we're planning on living together to take care of our future kid towards the end of the year. Things aren't exactly going to my plans, if this was all her plan I'm going to hate her for the rest of my life lol. But yeah, kinda have responsibility now... and neither of us wants to abort. Our own flesh and blood?! No, I can't do it, nor can she. We're in trouble
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Post by catgirl on Jan 8, 2009 15:31:31 GMT -5
I think you should sort things out just the two of you. Its more important to think about your lives + baby than family and friends. Believe me I mad a HUGE mistake in thinking about them, and my "love life" was a total mess after that little thought. I should have listened to my gut feeling
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Post by Subuatai on Jan 9, 2009 8:57:57 GMT -5
Well... we both agreed to keep our baby, and we do love each other, it has been years since we first met... so the discussion inevitably goes to family/friends. =/ The problem also arises as she is a MINISTER, of her own outreach in her Church. She spent 2 years studying in Bible College to get her certificate and bring a 'new face' to Christianity. So yeah... this affects her career as well so... Heh, I was about to delete the above posts but heck... I dunno, I haven't really shared this in real life amongst my mates. They would all be like "Daddy Subutai" "Baby Subuatai OMFG how cute" "Take care of your wifey" "What you going to name him/her?" and all that s*** heh. How are we meant to block out outside influences? We're like... =/ ... Been kinda stressed out I guess, she told me at New Years, nice plan, when I'm happy and celebrating so I wouldn't go off at her for going off the pill. Bah, everything is happening so fast... I'm both excited and shocked. I'm not ready for this, but then... who really is, everyone's going to be a first-time parent. And I went through some negative stuff recently in regards to the relationship due to her foreign blood (Nordic/Sinid) and me (Mongolic/Slavic)... then... this had to happen, and hell Well, on a positive note, I'm planning "Heaven" for a girls name, and "Jebe" for a boy's name. Don't ask about the heaven part... =/
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Post by rob on Jan 9, 2009 9:13:16 GMT -5
Well, on a positive note, I'm planning "Heaven" for a girls name, and "Jebe" for a boy's name. Don't ask about the heaven part... =/ Congrats on the little one! Can I make a suggestion though on the names? Jebe sounds cool, but Heaven just a little too generic hippie. Other names to avoid since I hear them all the frickin time these days: - Kayla - Kiara - Lauren - Jayden - Hayden In fact, if i have to attend another baby shower for a Kayla, Kiara, Lauren, Jayden or Hayden, I'm gonna sock the parents in the face.
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