Caught in a lie...

[dead0baby0chick]

See, this is why I try not to lie, because getting caught is such a humiliating pain in the ass. But I couldn't help it this time, it was one of those necessary conversational nicety kinda lies and then the next words out of my mouth completely contradicted what I'd just nicely lied about and I felt like a huge dumbass. I know I can't be alone in this...Someone name some good ways to maneuver out of this kind of embarrassment cause I'm drawing blanks.

[straylight]

Either cut your losses or ask to be heard out and admit it.. They're the only "honest" things you can do, so to speak.

Personally speaking, I had a lot of dirty laundry aired out in front of people long ago, and it kind of liberated me in the long run, I think. I don't really see a need to lie or put on fronts or hide things anymore. Not that I'm getting in people's faces and speaking my mind all the time, but I'm saying that I don't have a whole lot of shame left to experience. I might hide things about other people, just out of consideration.. but I don't care what anyone thinks about me.

[dead0baby0chick]

I tend not to lie about myself either, plus I think lying is a lot of work. I suck at it. But it was unavoidable in the situation. It was an acquaintance who was getting married and wanted my opinion on her choice of dress and she e-mailed me a pic of herself in it...I didn't look at it closely enough and when she asked me what I thought I said that I liked it especially the detail on the sleeves. Only there weren't any sleeves. I'm an idiot. I shouldn't have went for the specific comment, I did it to sound more believable but then I ended up completely exposing myself instead. She's really pissed at me now. On the plus side maybe she'll uninvite me from the reception, I hate weddings.

[straylight]

Haha, that's a funny one.

Well, if you care about her, just apologize for being careless, and then say the dress sucks at closer inspection anyways.

Seriously though, just apologize, since it seems like you feel bad about it. If she doesn't warm up to you, then there's nothing you can do really. Just don't make up some clever workaround, and be lame again.

I actually am a good liar (but yes, it's a lot of work). Acting has been an educational interest and hobby of mine. And I always was a good mimic when I was a kid. But I try to do something else in "real life". And like I said, it's liberating. To me, it's basically about respecting yourself.

[dead0baby0chick]

Yeah, I guess it's time to suck it up and just apologize. Another lie could end up blowing up in my face even worse. I should have just went "sorry, I haven't checked my e-mail yet" or something, which would have been a lie too but a better one. I don't really care about her that much, I just know her through mutual friends. Next time I see her I'll say something, or else I can just respond to the e-mail with an apology. Yeah, I think I'll go with the second route, since I hate apologizing face to face.

I agree about the self-respect point, if you lie about yourself it's the same as saying that the truth about you isn't good enough, therefore you're not good enough.

[straylight]

Sept 28, 2008 22:33:13 GMT -5 @dead0baby0chick said:

I agree about the self-respect point, if you lie about yourself it's the same as saying that the truth about you isn't good enough, therefore you're not good enough.

Exactly. And if there really isn't anything good enough, then just fix it in a real way. That's what I learned


Funny that you mention this though... A friend of mine just did the very same thing to me. He was talking about placing me in his place of business, and asked for my resume over email. Later on, he talked about "looking over it and said it was good."

Yesterday though, I spoke to him and he seemed to have forgotten his email reply. I started talking about my resume content, and he was like.. "I haven't gotten around to looking at it yet." Dude.

[dead0baby0chick]

^Ouch, burn. Now I definitely need to apologize, hearing it from the opposite side of the fence really makes it sound bad. That sucks, what a douche that guy is...s*** that makes me a douche...better get on the apology-making.