|
Post by jefe on Nov 2, 2010 5:32:04 GMT -5
^ I agree and disagree with this statement.
Whereas it is true that you may not encounter that particular random stranger again, and that individual's reaction / perception should not create strain for you, I don't agree that it doesn't matter what they think.
I think a Eurasian / family member of Eurasian has a golden opportunity, if not a duty to educate that person. What has happened has happened, but you can may sure that that person would think twice if they did that again, even to someone else. You might even change that person and who they contact for the rest of their life. And even if you don't, if they have several people educate them, then eventually they will learn.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Oct 28, 2010 12:41:47 GMT -5
Does no one get asked if they were adopted by their Asian parent?
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Oct 25, 2010 23:54:43 GMT -5
I've almost always felt like an outsider.
Curiously, one of the times where I felt more like an "insider" was when I went on a Study Tour to Japan. The 67 participants were from some 35 different countries and the only language that everyone had in common was Japanese (although about half of them could speak English, and some spoke Chinese, French, Spanish, Portuguese, etc.). I had a really fun time and felt that I could get along easily with everyone - I guess it might be because I never felt any need to conform to anything and could just be myself. People did find it curious why I seemed to talk more to the Chinese-speaking people (from many different countries) more than the other guy from the USA.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Oct 13, 2010 1:51:15 GMT -5
What is the crime? Having unprotected sex with multiple partners? However, morally wrong it might seem, I don't know where it would be a crime, esp. for men. In fact, some religious beliefs make it morally wrong to use protection.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Oct 11, 2010 12:45:08 GMT -5
Not often. I haven't seen my brother for almost 8 years. I saw one of my Aunts about 2.5 years ago.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Oct 11, 2010 12:43:14 GMT -5
I don't look like the typical Eurasian males like Daniel Henney. Funny, but I don't think Daniel Henney looks typical Eurasian male at all, or at least no more than Keanu Reeves or Enrique Iglesias. There are so many types of looks possible, I don't think anything is quintessentially typical.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Oct 11, 2010 12:39:16 GMT -5
It might not be possible to identify with your situation fully, but curiously, I often feel LESS panicky in situations where I am completely different than locals - I think it is because I feel less pressure to be local or non-local. Even if people expect me to conform, I can get away with it because I am not local.
I spent a few months in Japan, and did not expect people that people would expect me to conform. I spent about 5 months in Malaysia, and after about a month or so, I found that I could communicate to most people I wanted to, and it was not a major issue. Travelling through Brazil I felt a bit anxious, but mostly because I did not understand much Portuguese. I never felt people were making me feel alienated (but that might have changed after learning more Portuguese and interacted more and more with local people).
Of course, that could change after living there for 10 years - I might expect people to see me more as part of the community, or at least some segment of the local community. Growing up in the USA I often felt alienated from both whites and Asian-Americans - I tended to gravitate more to new immigrants and foreign students. It's almost as if I shared a sense of alienation from the mainstream society and from Asian-Americans as well.
After living in HK for over 15 years, I still feel that most HKers are not very welcoming to those they perceive as outsiders. I can understand Cantonese and Mandarin and read Chinese, but it is a struggle to get people to treat me as a normal person.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Sept 16, 2010 11:43:27 GMT -5
Since I have been twice to Pacquiao's hometown of General Santos in Mindanao, I can tell you that it is known as the Tuna City, the Tuna capital of the Philippines - so this is what you should be eating there.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Aug 4, 2010 2:35:33 GMT -5
I've realized that when I meet other EAs randomly, that I have as little in common with them as the general population Sometimes even less. Even when I meet NON-random EAs, I might not have much in common with them. Even though I share parents, a whole family of relatives with my biological brother (or other EA relatives), I don't share much more with him than with a random EA, which may still be less a monoracial with whom I do share some background with. However, if the random EA has some of the same issues (such as being put in a separate category from everyone else) - I might have some common ground to DEVELOP with them, but it is anything but automatic. Even TCK's often experience growing up among other TCK's, so I could not often relate well to that experience either. I know of some monoracials who were raised in a Eurasian family (because one of their parents remarried, and had EA children). There could be some common ground with them. In any case, sometimes I truly wish I could understand the world of the monoracial. It is like they see the world in black and white instead of different shades of grey.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Aug 4, 2010 2:24:13 GMT -5
Indeed, welcome to your own category of just yourself!
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Jun 19, 2010 10:56:26 GMT -5
^Certainly not unusual in places like Macau, or possibly parts of Malaysia or even Taiwan, where Portuguese settled.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Jun 8, 2010 22:02:23 GMT -5
Yeah, I didn't know it was the MAJORITY of Asian females. Can you show us your source, jefe? Not that I don't believe you, it's just that I remembered reading somewhere that it was only around 40% - still a lot, but not majority - of Asian females that marry outside Asian. Sorry, I think I was quoting that off the top of my head. I think it is not the majority of Asian females, but the majority of certain subsets of Asian females, ie, - American-Born Asian females, or - Japanese-American females, etc. Yes, I do think that the % is high, but not the majority of all Asian females in the USA. Sorry. Anyhow, Over 10% of Chinese males in China will not find any female partner. If we could only find a way to hook up the African-American females with Chinese males.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Jun 8, 2010 12:23:28 GMT -5
Racial and ethnic discrimination does have a large economic basis. Gee, slavery and Jim Crow existed to support the economic system, as does genocide.
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Jun 8, 2010 12:20:46 GMT -5
In North America, and possibly also the UK and parts of Europe, Black females are definitely at a disadvantage - most interracial relationships are BM / WF and WM / AF. And with so many Black males in the penal system or otherwise socially or economically disenfranchised from the system, black females are left high and dry for mates. They are destined to be single mothers with their ex-boyfriends with someone else already or perhaps in jail.
Black males, esp. those with a decent job or income or some education, not only have queues of black women for each one, they also likely have a choice of non-blacks to select from as well. In the dating game, it must be so EASY for them.
With the majority of Asian females marrying OUT to other racial groups, and few white women expressing a preference for Asian men, they may be forced to look back to Asia itself to find a mate, or face a life of bachelorhood. I assume that may also imply that Asian men will also have to PAY for sex more often -- curiously, it might have to be with black females.
I disagree that Asian males find it too easy to find Asian females in real life -- the MAJORITY of Asian females in the USA marry someone of a different race. Even in places like China, the one child per family situation left the country with an over abundance of males - males who will not be able to find a partner.
Black men are simply perceived as being more masculine and Asian women more feminine. Now that global interaction and immigration is just so easy today, I really what that means for the future genetic drift and evolution of humans in the future.
Will Asian men and Black females be able to see each other as desirable partners?
|
|
|
Post by jefe on Jun 8, 2010 12:03:36 GMT -5
My brother and I, gee, . . . Very close in age, grew up together in the same neighborhood, even shared a bedroom during our early childhood.
But I have never met 2 siblings with more different viewpoints / lifestyles, etc. than the 2 of us.
|
|