ganbat
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Post by ganbat on Oct 2, 2007 23:08:11 GMT -5
I'm 1/4 asian and my girlfriend is full asian.this if fine, but i feel like this is really uncommon. all the other white/azn mixes i know have only/are dating other whites. i only know of one other couple, other than myself and my girlfriend, where a mix dating someone that is 100% asian.
is this as rare as it seems to me? any other thoughts?
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Post by Emily on Oct 2, 2007 23:13:03 GMT -5
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Post by Nikki on Oct 2, 2007 23:43:22 GMT -5
I've dated a couple of fully Asian guys. For some reason they've all been Chinese but it's probably just because there happen to be heap loads of Chinese in New York City. Oddly enough I've dated the same amount of Caucasian guys as Asian guys. Something innately keeping a balance I suppose. In any case, not rare at all
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Oct 3, 2007 9:46:06 GMT -5
I have dated every type of guy and once I went out with this hot Chinese guy but it not really the norm I actually felt I had more of a connection with this guy who was irish and spanish cuz he was mixed. That felt closer to home than dating a monoracial. I find I am closer with mixed guys despite their race. Funny thing is alot of French Canadians make a play for me which I am surprised at. I feel we have nothing in common when I meet them so I am not neccessarily attracted right away until they like woo me or something.
Indian guys I just think are my cousins or brothers and chinese guys the same...for some reason it feels like incest...I dunno why.
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Ishman
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Post by Ishman on Oct 3, 2007 12:27:43 GMT -5
I read this a couple of months ago: www.timeout.com/newyork/article/dating/21449/the-single-fileIt's not really about EA's, but I still think it relates somewhat to this thread. It's also about women rather than men, but I can relate to the stuff in the first paragraph about being more attracted to whites than asians because it's what was familiar to me having grown up in predominantly white communities. My perspective has since changed a little, and I've dated asian girls but I understood what that girl meant.
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swordcane
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Post by swordcane on Oct 3, 2007 12:49:55 GMT -5
I've only dated mostly white men and women, but they mostly all became long-term relationships, so I'm not sure I've been with enough people to say there's a pattern. Actually, two were born on June 21, and two were born on April 5, so maybe there's a pattern there? I did almost go with a good friend of mine, but by the time our feelings had grown past friendly, it was time for him to go back to Korea for the summer and then return here in the fall for college (which was 4 hours away)
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Oct 3, 2007 15:06:43 GMT -5
There is an EA beauty myth, and it's mainly perpetuated by full asian people.
Do a little rationale. If asian people are responsible for the perpetuation of the EA beauty myth, then they are probably sought after more by full asians as well.
I've seen mixed people dating full asian people way more than their other halfs.
In America, at least, the asian girls are use to seeing white guys growing up in elementary school and tailor their tastes towards them because they like what they know. Then high school or college hits and they are hit with tons of other asian-americans, and feel comfortable and many date from there because of common cultural issues. But then they meet the half-asian, which represents childhood and cultural comfort. BOOM
P.S. I went to the largest high school in American (5,000 kids) which had a rather diverse population. I've witnessed it happen countless times.
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Post by Micha on Oct 3, 2007 15:13:33 GMT -5
I'm slightly biased as I've come down with yellow fever COMPLETELY. I really can't resist approaching (stalking) any of those Asian guys with long, dyed? hair, quirky clothes etc. I've been out with many mixed and white guys but only one full Asian which fizzled out as soon as I came back to London (from Malaysia).
But yes, all the mixed girls I know (a lot) have mostly white boyfriends, if not, other races EXCEPT full Asian.. quite odd. Whereas, I know many mixed boys who have previously dated full Asians. You must remember that all the members of EAN are interested in their mixed heritage but there are plenty who really couldn't care e.g. hasn't had considerable effect on their lives/thinking etc.
Also, I find that living in London in particular is odd as there are many Orientals but they're viewed as being very 'FOB' and unapproachable as the ones in university tend to group together ONLY speaking their native language/are assumed to be tourists and in a school/college environment, they are definitly the minority and not seen to be 'sexy' etc. (hard to explain) basically, there aren't enough good role-model Asians in the media - look at Eva Longoria and Eva Mendez, both women created a sortof Hispanic-fetish hysteria..!?
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Oct 3, 2007 15:18:54 GMT -5
It's true, Micha hasn't left me alone since I got blond highlights, plucked my eye brows, and began wearing clothes from 2020
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Post by Micha on Oct 3, 2007 15:30:30 GMT -5
Yeah, standardly.. But there's enough of TETSUJI TAMAYAMA to go around.. oh yes.. If he came up to you, how the HELL could you say no? And Asian looking EA guys are, well the few I've met, beautiful.
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Post by Micha on Oct 3, 2007 15:32:56 GMT -5
Oh bollocks, he's absolutely gigantic.
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Post by ethan9273 on Oct 3, 2007 16:26:42 GMT -5
I find this quote particularly interesting.
Many Asians internalize their frustrations. Therefore you will see some Asian girls who were picked on and made fun of by Whites at a young age, grow up wanting to be accepted and loved by them. They internalize their hate for their own people, other Asians. Men on the other hand are more logical (on average) thus they tend to see a direct link to who their tormentors are. They hold it in too, but in some cases like Virginia Tech, they explode.
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Post by jenecis on Oct 3, 2007 22:27:20 GMT -5
I reckon it depends on your socialisation.
I was brought up in a white society so I'm more attracted to white guys, though I've got nothing against azn ones.
What I do have a problem with is people dating others because they are white/asian/EA! Especially if they feel that by dating the "right raced" people it will elevate their social status etc.
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Oct 3, 2007 23:10:22 GMT -5
micha what's growing on that guy's upper lip and chin?
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Post by Ave` on Oct 3, 2007 23:21:31 GMT -5
rofl...Asian guys treat you like a goddess. White guys treat you like an asian wench. Its up to you which one do you like?
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