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Post by xandra on Oct 17, 2007 0:30:37 GMT -5
Yeah.... it's awkward. I don't really know how to deal with it other than to make it as clear as you can that you aren't interested in them. Whether that be by talking about another guy that you really like/bf, or just being upfront about not being attracted to them. Although the last option seems unnecessarily harsh.
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Oct 17, 2007 4:04:59 GMT -5
Sometimes it is unavoidable - a guy will crush on you and become clingy. A girl can usually spot this, or rather, they should use their 6th sense they talk about to much and spot it early on.
When they do spot it, they better start making conscious decisions about situations they put themselves in - are you hanging out with this guy 1on1? Talking to him on the phone? Confiding in them? These things need to stop because guys have ways of mis perceiving them as something more than they really are.
Once the guy begins to crush, you two no longer have a normal friendship, and may never have a normal friendship for a long time. The best thing you can do is create a lot of distance, which the guy will understand, and salvage what's left. However, if you go back to being real close again, chances his feelings will unburrow and he will begin to crush again.
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Post by Phil on Oct 17, 2007 7:12:54 GMT -5
Fell in love with my friend, she fell in love with me. She was EA and so was I. She was 18 and so was I. But she was taken and I was single. And she didnt want to leave her boyfriend.
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Post by halfbreed on Oct 17, 2007 8:14:46 GMT -5
"You're everywhere and nowhere all at once." That is like... the coolest line.
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Post by Guy in the white shirt on Oct 24, 2007 22:31:58 GMT -5
^ Sounds like he has to give you space, if he really is a good friend he should at least know that not everything is about him. I agree with what JohnCoolYoungHistory said, sounds like the guys getting clingy. Its a shame when friendships turn out this way. Personally, I try not to have close female friends, someone always ends up wanting more from the relationship (esp when theres alcohol around lol).
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Post by Ave` on Oct 24, 2007 23:10:05 GMT -5
that pretty much sound like what we all girl like to do when we are not sure abt how the other person is feeling or thinking. We try to make the most logical explanation. And from the explanation we derive another explanation and before long youll be so far off then what he actually feel. Think like this, man thinks more simply then we do. We tend to complicate things. Just dont think that he thinks that youre mad at him or something. You dont need to be psychic. When you have time to talk, everything will unfold. All Im saying is youre already physically exhausted from your internship, just dont exhaust your emotion as well hunny ok. (this is prolly my longest post by far, because you matter :])
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Post by ConceptDesign on Nov 1, 2007 21:26:49 GMT -5
Everything I've read from her indicates she is some kind of super flirt who loves the attention she claims to hate. One has to wonder what it is about you that has engendered such feelings in him towards you. You claim in your postings its not reciprocated.
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Post by halfbreed on Nov 4, 2007 0:49:49 GMT -5
Maybe the closeness problems are the catalyst behind your superflirt self.
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Post by Aiko on Nov 5, 2007 12:40:30 GMT -5
I voted no, he didn't fall in love with me, but he did become an asshole and try to make a move on me despite the fact that he had a girlfriend and mainly just because he was a horny bastard. Our friendship ended right there.
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Nov 6, 2007 14:58:10 GMT -5
^ yeah I had one of those too
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Post by honeyviper on Nov 11, 2007 14:51:19 GMT -5
Oh jeez!! I think you've been really obvious (in a tactful way) about how you do not have feelings for him. It is nice that he is supportive of you regardless though.
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Post by Ave` on Nov 11, 2007 20:33:30 GMT -5
I know! Find him a gf!
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Post by Roam'n on Nov 11, 2007 20:51:49 GMT -5
^ yeah, that'll work wonders --- claudia: you're a perfect woman and i think i'm in love with you. ha sorry i couldnt help myself ;D
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Post by long on Nov 12, 2007 2:38:09 GMT -5
I'm still too reluctant to talk to him... hasn't he realized I don't reciprocate any of his feelings... At least he wrote he would help me w/ whatever no matter what... - If you're going to let the guy help you w/whatever no matter what, you can't blame him for continuing to think he has a chance. Accepting favors from those whose feelings you don't reciprocate is a no-no.
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Post by Emily on Nov 12, 2007 20:29:00 GMT -5
^ Agreed. Plus, he might just be saying this to keep all chances of getting in your pants on his side.
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