Has any of your friends ever fallen in love w/ u?

[Freecia]

I tend to think that when you're with a friend you're more natural as compared to someone you have a crush on. You're less nervous and you're more willing to talk about things in your own opinion. All in all, it may bring out the more beautiful side of you compared to if you were next to your boyfriend or someone you're attracted to, because you didn't have to think about how you should react to please him, attract him. Because there's no pressure in representing yourself, this friend of yours is more likely to develop some kind of feelings toward you.

That's happened to me once before, and I must say I didn't handle it so well. It was summer and we were very close friends, so we talked and met up with each other almost everyday. I stopped seeing and talking to the guy the day after he confessed to me how he felt. I guess I didn't know what to say or react toward him because I wasn't attracted to him. He's just a friend....apparently, I wasn't brave and friend enough to tell him I wasn't attracted to him....

[lo1337a]

It's a weird call to make when you're not actually attracted to them (not at first anyway). Some guys can grow on you if you give them the chance.

Having that problem now. Guy who works at Sephora who's really cool and hooks me up with free perfume. We have really good times talking to each other. However, I was only being friendly and open because I thought he was gay for the first week of knowing him, thought I suspected otherwise after thinking about it. Last time, he was walking me to the subway and went out of his way to let me know he was straight. Now has begun texting me. Debating whether to go for it since we get along so well, but I really don't find him that cute.

Cake or death? It's an awkward choice. I feel like I'd basically be in a relationship where I knew I'd be jumping ship the moment something better came along.

[lo1337a]

kyuree said:

here's the update:

now he can't bear me anymore... and whatnot. Something about the other topic he had a problem w/.

I don't really get it to be honest.
But maybe it's better like that.

I don't care anymore what kind of illusions he has of me - whether good or bad.

Sounds kind of like he was crazy to begin with. I don't think you should go out with people who outright "adore" you without having dated you (unless they've known you for years and years...). I feel like that's gone from having a crush to having a fixation.

[9ball]

^agreed.

[daisypukes]

Yeah, I've had a few friends fall for me. I don't know why, I wasn't trying to make them fall. And those situations ended badly. Very, very badly. The friendships are over.

[chad]

Time to move on Kuy-ree.

Sounds like you have plenty of other male friends anyway.

Cheers.

[ConceptDesign]

Lies lies damn lies. You Eurasians are so full of yourselves. So many tickets, so little to show.