swordcane
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Post by swordcane on Oct 12, 2007 17:26:14 GMT -5
Yes, I can think of 7 off the top of my head, 4 of them became relationships. The other two are good friends, but it gets both awkward and depressing at times because as much as I complain about feeling lonely often, I wish I could make myself like them as more than a friend. Sometimes I feel like I'm leading them on.
Unfortunatly, the one friend that I'm currently in love with doesn't want a relationship and is kinda taken anyway.
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Oct 12, 2007 18:46:30 GMT -5
First love and I started off as real, real good friends, but there was sexual tension from the start, and it progressed beyond friends pretty fast... That's pretty important if its gonna progress towards more than friends.
There is a window of time that if people miss it, you're forever in the friends zone.
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Post by yongfook on Oct 13, 2007 4:12:25 GMT -5
you have closeness problems.
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Post by Ave` on Oct 13, 2007 11:07:01 GMT -5
use them for an ego trip, find someone else for sexual gratification.
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Post by yongfook on Oct 13, 2007 18:05:45 GMT -5
see this is exactly what I'm talking about.
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Post by thekrez on Oct 13, 2007 18:41:15 GMT -5
Im sorry I have to agree with Jon.
For gods sakes just let go. And then all the sh*t will just disappear.
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Post by Guy in the white shirt on Oct 14, 2007 10:40:31 GMT -5
^ not all men jst want sex, sometimes they want breakfast too (kidding!) Actually, I'm with you. Why waste time sleeping with someone you're not into? Esp if its a friend. As for your original question. Happens all the time, you just get used to reading the signs and either pretend you don't notice or bring it up in conversation (which you have already). If its awkward, then you're probably going to have to mention it again and let him decide what he wants to do.
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Post by honeyviper on Oct 14, 2007 11:35:49 GMT -5
I'm usually not an "either/or" type when it comes to situational advice, but in this case I am. Speaking as someone who's been on both sides of the equation, things either remain weird and he doesn't get over it, or he sorts himself out and you two resume your friendship. The realization that the dynamics of the relationship will not change is something he'll have to come to terms with if he wants to retain your friendship. Be firm about where you're coming from.
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Post by Ave` on Oct 14, 2007 20:08:13 GMT -5
Lol ...you go girl!!!!N1!!!!!! I translated "b/c" as "bullcrap", it makes more sense this way. and the last comment on Jons credibility is very enlightening xD
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Oct 15, 2007 1:52:11 GMT -5
Actually I've been known not to bang real attractive girls to save the friendship - admittedly, it's almost always because they're good looking, but not hot enough for me to risk it. (shallow yet true)
If I'm going to have sex with a girl, she needs a combo of looks and personality, and she can make up for one with the other. A girl with all looks won't last in a relationship with me but I'd still bang her.
That said, I always run into girls where we have mediocre attraction and mediocre mental chemistry, and it doesn't lead to sex, but friendship.
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Post by ConceptDesign on Oct 15, 2007 7:44:10 GMT -5
It actually used to happen to me quite a lot. But since hooking up with my wife, I'm not allowed to have close female friends. It broke many a heart the day I made my intentions clear. Lucky for me she doesn't know most of my male friends feel the same way about me! If she found out I wouldn't be allowed to have any friends. Anyhow, it isn't gay when you accidently kiss while doing mouth to mouth resuscitation exercises.
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Oct 15, 2007 8:29:30 GMT -5
Lol ...you go girl!!!!N1!!!!!! I translated "b/c" as "bullcrap", it makes more sense this way. and the last comment on Jons credibility is very enlightening xD Why do I feel like a "YOU GO GIRL!!!" is comin on?
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Post by Guy in the white shirt on Oct 15, 2007 8:38:45 GMT -5
It actually used to happen to me quite a lot. But since hooking up with my wife, I'm not allowed to have close female friends. It broke many a heart the day I made my intentions clear. Lucky for me she doesn't know most of my male friends feel the same way about me! If she found out I wouldn't be allowed to have any friends. Anyhow, it isn't gay when you accidently kiss while doing mouth to mouth resuscitation exercises. HAHAHAHAHA. Sure sure, if thats you're excuse!
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Post by Emily on Oct 15, 2007 13:42:49 GMT -5
Get a boyfriend, it should keep most of these sticky situations at bay. Most of them anyway. Sooo... Is that younger guy still available? Jokes aside, I'm not a fan of calling him out on it, it can often make the situation akward. Don't put yourself in situations where he could get mixed messages. Let his ardour die down and hope that everything stays as is.
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Post by Roam'n on Oct 16, 2007 20:20:27 GMT -5
I have a feeling this happens to girls a lot more then it happens to guys...
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