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Post by Roam'n on Jan 16, 2008 0:31:13 GMT -5
It has been my experience that women are intelligent enough to have the "better thing" already lined up. That was my case. We were married and had a 2 year old child. She got a new job as a belly dancer at a Moroccan restaurant.. met a coworker/waiter/aspiring musician whom she really liked, and within 5 months she dumped me for him. I was blindsided... and a mess for a good 2 years.. But now we're on friendly terms; we kind of have to be for our child's sake-- but it's a little strange to shift from being the closest person we were to each other... to what we are now: acquaintances that happened to have a child together. Early on she seemed to have thought we were friends or something... telling me way too much personal information about herself and her bf... but after a while I figured out that her life is completely uninteresting and she is completely boring. It's funny how being dumped makes you re-examine people. It's like suddenly they weren't so great after all.. Don't get me wrong, I dont disrespect her... i'll help her out when I can... troubleshoot her car.. help pay for our daughters clothes and other assorted expenses.. To her credit, she's still with the same guy she left me for.. Even though he even cheated on her twice.. she stuck with him! I guess true love will do that. (although I can't help but laugh a little).. If I was to date, the only snag is I take care of my child 4 nights a week; mondays, tuesdays, fridays and all day saturday. I love my daughter to death, but needless to say this schedule really kills any sort of normal dating life. (Especially if you're dating early on and want to limit exposure to 'the child').. I have learned to value my life outside relationships.. way more then anything else. Which is probably why even if I had time and means to date, I still wouldn't. It's not even an interesting activity. i'd rather spend my free time hanging out with friends and go motorcycle riding, hiking, drinking, etc...
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Post by TotalWar on Jan 16, 2008 1:06:16 GMT -5
Women are repulsed by obsessive, needy guys. Don't ever let her think that she's got a monopoly and don't ever delude yourself into thinking that she's "perfect" and its the end of the world if you lose her. You're only setting yourself up for a massive disappointment. If maintaining a relationship is a lot of work for you, its not going to last long nor should it.
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Post by Ave` on Jan 16, 2008 1:30:29 GMT -5
Women are repulsed by obsessive, needy guys. Don't ever let her think that she's got a monopoly and don't ever delude yourself into thinking that she's "perfect" and its the end of the world if you lose her. You're only setting yourself up for a massive disappointment. If maintaining a relationship is a lot of work for you, its not going to last long nor should it. I bit to deffer. Women are just repulsed by loser and boring guys.
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Post by browneyes on Jan 16, 2008 1:48:54 GMT -5
I don't think men fall harder than woman. It depends on the type of relationship you had, the type of person you are, and the reason why that other person dumped you. (Whether you're a man or woman)
I think men and women fall the hardest is when the one they love have been yanked away from them by someone else.
but if you're just talking about men, I think it is because you are too ashamed, humiliated, embarrassed to share this with your buddies. So you tend to either withdraw from world, Act like everything is cool and bang the next girl you pick up, or just get drunk until the hurt feelings are healed.
Everyone gets hurt. It just depends on how you choose to heal that's all.
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Post by TotalWar on Jan 16, 2008 1:51:00 GMT -5
I bit to deffer. Women are just repulsed by loser and boring guys. And how are you differing? Semantics.
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Post by TotalWar on Jan 16, 2008 1:54:36 GMT -5
I think men and women fall the hardest is when the one they love have been yanked away from them by someone else. Absolutely. Love's a game, and it's a shame, but sometimes you don't win...
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Post by browneyes on Jan 16, 2008 2:04:49 GMT -5
but totalwar sometimes you do win!!! Everything happens for a reason.
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Post by TotalWar on Jan 16, 2008 2:32:31 GMT -5
but totalwar sometimes you do win!!! Everything happens for a reason. Heh. I sure do. Sometimes.
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Post by browneyes on Jan 16, 2008 2:40:52 GMT -5
Well than, I'm sure glad to hear that.
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Post by avax on Jan 16, 2008 9:42:37 GMT -5
It has been my experience that women are intelligent enough to have the "better thing" already lined up. That was my case. We were married and had a 2 year old child. She got a new job as a belly dancer at a Moroccan restaurant.. met a coworker/waiter/aspiring musician whom she really liked, and within 5 months she dumped me for him. I was blindsided... and a mess for a good 2 years.. But now we're on friendly terms; we kind of have to be for our child's sake-- but it's a little strange to shift from being the closest person we were to each other... to what we are now: acquaintances that happened to have a child together. Early on she seemed to have thought we were friends or something... telling me way too much personal information about herself and her bf... but after a while I figured out that her life is completely uninteresting and she is completely boring. It's funny how being dumped makes you re-examine people. It's like suddenly they weren't so great after all.. Don't get me wrong, I dont disrespect her... i'll help her out when I can... troubleshoot her car.. help pay for our daughters clothes and other assorted expenses.. To her credit, she's still with the same guy she left me for.. Even though he even cheated on her twice.. she stuck with him! I guess true love will do that. (although I can't help but laugh a little).. If I was to date, the only snag is I take care of my child 4 nights a week; mondays, tuesdays, fridays and all day saturday. I love my daughter to death, but needless to say this schedule really kills any sort of normal dating life. (Especially if you're dating early on and want to limit exposure to 'the child').. I have learned to value my life outside relationships.. way more then anything else. Which is probably why even if I had time and means to date, I still wouldn't. It's not even an interesting activity. i'd rather spend my free time hanging out with friends and go motorcycle riding, hiking, drinking, etc... I read this last night and actually slept on it. Thanks for sharing that.
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Post by Altan on Jan 16, 2008 13:38:45 GMT -5
^Bellydancers now that kind of woman is hard to trust. A Bellydancer needs harsh men for this is their company. This is known throughout the Middle East. If I knew my wife is a Bellydancer than I would have to be brutal. That is the only solution.
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Post by EA Observer on Jan 18, 2008 16:37:26 GMT -5
Men rise harder than women, also.
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Post by fumanchu on Jan 19, 2008 21:09:30 GMT -5
A nugget of wisdom A rich life is one with good friendships, hobbies/pursuits, and goals. A relationship isn't mandatory. I still like to oogle beautiful women, but frankly, I can think of far better things to waste my life doing than dating them....they make good friends though.
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