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Post by viruslabrat on Jan 26, 2008 5:34:51 GMT -5
I get the feeling that I suck at reading guys. I never know when a guy's interested or not and most of the time when a guy tells me that he is it takes me by surprise. I usually tell myself that a guy can't possibly be interested in ambiguous situations because I'm not pretty/interesting/white/whatever the hell I can come up with at the time. Thanks long!
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Post by long on Jan 26, 2008 5:36:33 GMT -5
If a guy is talking to you at a party for more than 3 min he would probably like to sleep with you that evening. No lie.
You may use this to support the thread's theme if you will.
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Post by viruslabrat on Jan 26, 2008 5:37:50 GMT -5
I'm guessing that excludes guy friends that you've known since highschool? Otherwise it would basically include every guy I hang out with.
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Post by long on Jan 26, 2008 5:51:17 GMT -5
A guy that you hadn't known beforehand. But as I've already told you, most of your guy friends are probably interested on some level as well.
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Post by viruslabrat on Jan 26, 2008 5:54:00 GMT -5
Are men really that obsessed with sex? Makes them all sound kind of shallow...
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Post by daisypukes on Jan 26, 2008 6:15:00 GMT -5
I refuse to believe that men are that shallow. And I find it incredibly irritating when men say that just because another man is being nice to you, talking to you like a person, etc that it's purely sexual and they just want in your pants. Maybe your head's that far in the gutter, long, but not all men are like that and not all male/female interaction has those kinds of ulterior motives entailed.
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Post by long on Jan 26, 2008 6:18:41 GMT -5
Just because a guy would sleep with you doesn't make him shallow. I said nothing to suggest that's the only thing he has on his mind or even that it's on the forefront.
My main point was: that guys line was a line and it was lame.
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Post by daisypukes on Jan 26, 2008 6:30:24 GMT -5
That is not a f***ing line, if that was a line then almost every (platonic) male friend I have right now has hit on me. It's not a line, it's a goddamn compliment. It's only a line if it's coupled with other things that would indicate romantic interest. That guy she was talking to was drunk, he was confiding in her, he wasn't hitting on her. Do you look at everything in life as being this sordid? Even if a guy finds you attractive and says that he does, that isn't always a line. Jesus Christ, you're so f***ing high school in your mentality, it's sad.
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Post by long on Jan 26, 2008 6:45:28 GMT -5
All of your friends say they'd hit on you if you weren't taken? (if this is true I feel compelled to say again, you have bad taste because that line is so pathetic). That is NOT a confession, it is undoubtedly an expression of romantic interest. I'd call it line, but if you don't want to that's fine. Calling someone attractive is not a line I agree. Cursing at me and calling me hs is hs.
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Post by daisypukes on Jan 26, 2008 6:50:16 GMT -5
It isn't a f***ing line, you retard, it's just a compliment. Maybe every nice thing or even cheesy compliment you give to a girl is because you're desperate for sex, but not all guys are as pathetic as you so there is no need to read so deeply into every f***ing thing a guy says. You are so f***ing sad and HIGH SCHOOL, and no that doesn't make me high school, it's not like cooties you infantile little s***.
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Post by long on Jan 26, 2008 7:38:20 GMT -5
What is a line by your definition?
Mine: a statement of romantic/sexual interest, just as simple as that; this is the same definition I'd use for 'hitting on' someone
If a guy says: "I'd hit on you if you weren't taken, but I know you wouldn't cheat" he is saying "I'd express romantic/sexual interest in you if you weren't taken (when in fact he just did - making it two-face, passive, pathetic), and I'd have sex with you, I don't think you'd do that, but I'm just letting you know on the off-chance that you would." This meets my definition of a line.
9/10 if a man is expressing sexual interest in a female, he's not just doing it to be a nice guy.. he would actually follow through given the opportunity.
Do you honestly have a major problem with these generalizations?
Telling a girl that she is attractive is an entirely different thing, that is not an explicit statement of sexual/romantic interest.
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Post by daisypukes on Jan 26, 2008 7:57:34 GMT -5
A line is a comment made by an individual with the intention of loosening the other individual's belt buckle. Saying you WOULD hit on someone is different than hitting on someone. A guy can be attracted to a girl and say that he's attracted without it being a move. Not everything is making a move. And not 9/10, many men express interest, flirt, give compliments and it means NOTHING, you read far too much into things like this because you are a pathetic male and every word that comes out of your mouth that is directed towards a female is an attempt to get in her pants. Not all guys are like that.
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Post by long on Jan 26, 2008 8:09:20 GMT -5
"A guy can be attracted to a girl and say that he's attracted without it being a move." I agree and I've already said this. "Saying you WOULD hit on someone is different than hitting on someone." No. Hitting on someone is saying 'I want you'. Saying I would hit on you is saying ' I want you but I can't have you'. The latter includes the former. I'm not 'reading into' anything this is entirely on the surface. "And not 9/10, many men express interest, flirt, give compliments and it means NOTHING" - By NOTHING you must actually mean SOMETHING. Nothing means NOTHING. If you actually believe that your description of me is anything close to reality, you are a very poor judge of character. Did we already know that?
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Post by daisypukes on Jan 26, 2008 14:27:11 GMT -5
1. Guys say things like this a lot. "If you didn't already have a bf," "if you were a little older," "if you weren't dating my friend," etc, etc. It doesn't mean anything, it's just a comment. Unless it is accompanied by flirtation, which can be read easily by body language, eye contact, etc, it's NOT a come on. It's just a statement. 2. Even when people flirt, THAT doesn't always mean anything. A lot of times people flirt just for fun, that's why it's called "flirtation" instead of "contract of intent." You take things way too seriously and read way too much into s***. 3. You are so f***ing condescending. To pretend to know what a situation is based purely on one sentence when you have no real knowledge. Any girl past the age of 14 who isn't completely naive can read a guy. If a girl says "he wasn't hitting on me" then he wasn't. How f***ing condescending to presume to know better than a person who is actually in the situation simply because you have a penis and therefore know exactly what all other penis-owners are like. 4. I'm a very good judge of character. Which is why I don't like you.
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Post by ChickenSoda on Jan 26, 2008 16:00:06 GMT -5
2. Even when people flirt, THAT doesn't always mean anything. A lot of times people flirt just for fun, that's why it's called "flirtation" instead of "contract of intent." You take things way too seriously and read way too much into sh*t. I can't imagine anybody having fun flirting with someone that they have no degree of interest in. If not, you're just asking for a headache.
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