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Post by ChickenSoda on Jan 28, 2008 15:02:02 GMT -5
I'm not against treating girls well, but f***ing hell, if I'm going to do something nice, I'd at least put in the effort to be original about it. The whole kiss on the hand, pulling out the chair routine is disingenuous at best, and I don't think I could respect a girl who didn't see right through me if I tried it.
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Post by elle on Jan 28, 2008 15:09:47 GMT -5
actually i think you're right. old fashioned chivalry could be suspect or nerdy at best. i think i meant that manners rank consitently highly: Manners: Little things like manners are very important. Women don't want their man to drive up and reach over from the driver's seat and open the passenger door or just wait for us to open the door. A little old fashioned chivalry goes a long way. Escort the lady to the car and open the door for her. We love to be treated like queens. It makes us feel like you think we're special. And hopefully you do think she's special. We love a man with manners. We know we can take him home and our parents will love him. We don't want to have to worry about what you might do or say. We want to be with a man not a boy. That means no farting, belching, toe or nose picking, spitting, or smacking your lips when you eat. We want to know we can take you in public and we won't be embarrassed. And don't forget we also like to show you off to our girlfriends and we want them to approve. You want the girlfriends to think you're a "Keeper". rest of article: ezinearticles.com/?Top-13-Things-Women-Want-in-a-Man&id=833524actually whoever wrote that is a little 'gay' but you get the drift. for instance, i couldn't date a person who chews with their mouth open. i'm sure everybody has their personal views on different manners and so on.
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Post by ChickenSoda on Jan 28, 2008 15:25:57 GMT -5
smacking your lips when you eat. THIS is one of the most grating things that people can ever do, and I can't even wrap my mind around how people develop this habit. I don't even understand how chewing can be conducive to that sound. I'm making it as I type this, and it feels like I'd have to be mashing the food with the roof of my mouth instead of chewing. I don't think I can sit at a dinner table with a person doing that without having an overwhelming urge to jam my fork into his or her throat.
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Post by Aznlatina on Jan 28, 2008 17:49:48 GMT -5
I'm not against treating girls well, but f**king hell, if I'm going to do something nice, I'd at least put in the effort to be original about it. The whole kiss on the hand, pulling out the chair routine is disingenuous at best, and I don't think I could respect a girl who didn't see right through me if I tried it. If you can find men that still do this, I'll buy you a drink.
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Post by long on Jan 28, 2008 17:53:29 GMT -5
if I'm as attractive as you make me out to be then I should be fending off guys left, right and centre, which I'm not. Even the most attractive people in the world don't have to deal with that, people are afraid to approach them. If I think you're attractive, your boyfriend does, it seems very likely that this party dude does and I'd wager a fair percentage of your guy friends do.. surely there must be others. I think your humility may be throwing off your interpretation of the situation. On chivalry: at the heart of chivalry is courtesy, respect, affection; while grandiose, stylized displays of chivalry may be on the outs, man will always appreciate woman (and it'd be nice if she returned the favor). If this can be done naturally instead of for show I think that's all for the best. Pulling out chairs, opening doors, getting coats, etc are all definitely still practiced in the South.
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Post by fumanchu on Jan 29, 2008 5:08:03 GMT -5
I can't say i'm a shining light for manners but i agree a little goes a long way. It's just basic respect for other people and a little reminder that you're not the only person on earth. I consider myself lucky in that I've two older sisters, so i'm well trained Opening car doors, opening doors in general, letting other into and out of lifts first, giving your bus seat up to older people. I generally only do the full chair thing for older women, my mom, grandma etc but pulling out the chair and waiting for others to be seated before you is basic courtesy. Writing songs and kissing hands? Kissing hands in what context? Holding hands across a dinner table talking. Sure. Down on bended knee presenting a rose? I think not. I have a mate that writes songs for his girlfriends. It's really hard to write ones that aren't complete cheese. There's a lot of tension between writing a decent song and having her sigh or writing the backstreet boys next hit ballad and having her vomit on you. I picked up an interesting thing from a movie called "A bronx tale". In it, an older guy tells the teenager, this is how you test a woman to tell if she's worth a second date. Open the car door for her and let her into the car. If she gets in and reaches over and unlocks your side, she's a keeper. If she sits there looking in the mirror checkin her makeup, whatever, she's selfish. Don't date her again. So while we are talking about male manners, how many of you ladies are passing that test of manners?
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Post by elle on Jan 29, 2008 5:27:20 GMT -5
^well for starters we wouldn't be too impressed by the lack of central locking.
i keed.
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Post by ConceptDesign on Jan 29, 2008 7:29:19 GMT -5
Haha you so clazy.
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Post by fumanchu on Jan 29, 2008 10:38:47 GMT -5
^^ haha. Hey be fair, I'm already picking up my dates in a 19th century horsedrawn carriage, you can't expect central locking on top! The footmen will revolt
Actually, I know it's completely unreasonable but I still watch to see what my g'friends do. If it's pouring with rain and i'm opening the door for her, regardless of central locking, I still think flicking the door open on my side shows manners.
edit: A bronx tale is set in the 1950's hence no central locking. On the other hand, a lot of those caddies had no roofs either
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Post by ChickenSoda on Jan 29, 2008 16:08:30 GMT -5
I'm not against treating girls well, but f**king hell, if I'm going to do something nice, I'd at least put in the effort to be original about it. The whole kiss on the hand, pulling out the chair routine is disingenuous at best, and I don't think I could respect a girl who didn't see right through me if I tried it. If you can find men that still do this, I'll buy you a drink. Starbucks Chai Latte. Buy it for me and I'll kiss your hand.
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Post by viruslabrat on Feb 8, 2008 10:30:14 GMT -5
Why do (young) guys feel the need to make projectiles and weapons out of random items in the workplace? Is launching plastic tubes across the laboratory really that entertaining? I quite like having my eyes intact and my head dent-free thank you very much. Do guys ever grow up???
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Post by thekrez on Feb 9, 2008 9:19:25 GMT -5
Why do (young) guys feel the need to make projectiles and weapons out of random items in the workplace? Is launching plastic tubes across the laboratory really that entertaining? I quite like having my eyes intact and my head dent-free thank you very much. Do guys ever grow up??? No we dont. Heads up Im about to throw a paper airplane at your head. It means I love you.
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Post by viruslabrat on Feb 9, 2008 10:14:11 GMT -5
They don't actually aim at me but one of these days they may just hit me. Their aim sucks. They like making weird noises too. I think they get some kind of kick out of seeing the unsurprised look on my face when I look around and find them making their weird sound effects. *throws mud pie at thekrez*. It means I want to have your babies
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Post by avax on Feb 9, 2008 11:40:11 GMT -5
If you can find men that still do this, I'll buy you a drink. Starbucks Chai Latte. Buy it for me and I'll kiss your hand. DIE STARBUCKS DIE. I will pummel Schultz into the ground. Watch me. 100 stores closing. Breakfast sandwiches recalled. Multiple complaints with culture and attitude. Give me Google.
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Post by elle on Feb 9, 2008 21:25:53 GMT -5
100 stores closed? in the US? it's about time they woke up to good coffee. STAR BUCKS SUCXXXXXXXXXXXX
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