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Post by Vestirse on Mar 25, 2008 19:28:50 GMT -5
My parents are both mixed and are both Chinese Jamaicans. My dad wanted me to marry another Chinese Jamaican (as he put it "someone of our same culture") I'm Jafaken. Actually I gotta visit Jamaica someday. I'm always listening to reggae and have a goat roti and Ting in my hands. I'd really like to see that reggae vibe down there. I know chinese was always involved in Jamaican music and I wanna learn about that more. Great. I actually had to look that up. Try to keep to the tourist-y areas unless you have a guide. Jamaica can be a dangerous place to anybody, but especially to a person of the wrong color.
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Post by honeyviper on Mar 27, 2008 22:21:09 GMT -5
My parents never get involved in my love life, but would like me to be happy in any way that may be. Recently my Dad expressed interest in me marrying a Polynesian guy. Hot! I have a tendency to date mixed guys. I'm not sure why that is. None of them looked the same or had much in common with one another (except that all of them were creative and VERY connected to their cultures).
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Post by cm on Mar 28, 2008 22:56:42 GMT -5
^ so are you asexual or what? ;D I'm reproduce like a worm. You cut me and that body part grows into an exact clone. I cannot be defeated so you might as well join my cause.
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Post by Paddy on Nov 24, 2008 16:40:28 GMT -5
Me: caucasian dad, Asian mother.
My dad has never expressed an opinion on the matter, and has always been happy to meet the girls I've introduced to him (mostly Chinese, though I did have an EA girlfriend once upon a time). He is always making hideous racial comments that he thinks are harmless and untoward. He never means to insult along lines of race, but his clumsiness is offensive. 'That chap is very well spoken for a black man.' 'She has very chinky eyes.' Sadly, his behaviour is representative of the institutionalised racism in the UK.
My mother once advised me not to go out with Chinese girls, citing that the are too much trouble. And trouble they are - at lest the girls I've been out with have been trouble! But that's just girls and guys. It's not all supposed to be plain sailing!
My parents basically want me to be happy.
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Post by dipsydoodle on Nov 24, 2008 18:17:56 GMT -5
anyways, between asian and white, my folks are ok with either one. if anything, my dad(asian) has been kinder/more welcoming to the white guys i dated than asian guys who came around, though i doubt it was directly because of their asian or whiteness. Huh? But he's not down on Asians or anything. After all, white guys are never funny looking or too short or not man enough. Really now? Cut the crap. If you're not attracted to Asian guys just say so, for god's sake. Don't hide behind your (asian) dad to mouth all your own thoughts and feelings on the matter.
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Post by straylight on Nov 24, 2008 18:43:35 GMT -5
i'd just like to say that biginjapan has the coolest name ever
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Post by TeeHee on Nov 24, 2008 18:45:08 GMT -5
anyways, between asian and white, my folks are ok with either one. if anything, my dad(asian) has been kinder/more welcoming to the white guys i dated than asian guys who came around, though i doubt it was directly because of their asian or whiteness. Huh? But he's not down on Asians or anything. After all, white guys are never funny looking or too short or not man enough. Really now? Cut the crap. If you're not attracted to Asian guys just say so, for god's sake. Don't hide behind your (asian) dad to mouth all your own thoughts and feelings on the matter. How am I hiding behind anything? That's exactly what I've observed/experienced with my folks. If we really wanna split hairs, I'd dated a few white guys whom my mom criticized as short, funny-looking etc. That example just happened to be with my dad and what he's said. I could go on all day about some of the nonsense my folks have said regarding both sides, but I'll save it. Must I note that I didn't/don't necessarily agree with everything my folks have said when it comes to my dating life. Many of us may completely disagree with/couldn't care less about our parents' mindset when it comes to various aspects of such topics. I'll admit that at the time, I wasn't really attracted to Vietnamese/Asian guys(this was back in New Orleans), but since moving out here to Phoenix, well I almost never see any other than the ones in my immediate family. Out here, it's mainly either white or latino folk. For the rare times that I'd come across any, I'd feel a sense of refreshment and nostalgia, and it just hit me hard and made me realize "I want this back in my life". And I never expected this to happen, but if anything, I've come to miss being around Vietnamese/Asian people and would have no problem dating an Asian guy. That said, this is largely a part of why I've been planning to move out of here within hopefully a few years time, to an area that's more racially-friendly and has a more prominent Vietnamese community.
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Post by straylight on Nov 24, 2008 19:41:11 GMT -5
try houston. big viet community there. plus, it's by NO
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Post by joha87 on Nov 25, 2008 4:06:04 GMT -5
I have an american (white) father and korean mother. I think it's mainly my mom that cares. Her main concern is that any girls I date are christian, since she's really religious. She does want me to date Korean girls, but funnily enough, she tells me not to get too involved with fobs though she's first generation too. I also think she rather would have me date white or black girls rather than girls of other asian nationality, especially Japanese. So Asian ;D. She always talks about how Korean girls are the best and how Japanese girls are tricky, cold and uncaring. But now I'm in Japan, so I'm pretty sure she's just waiting anxiously for the bad news that I'm dating a Japanese girl, who's most likely not Christian.
Despite my father being an otherwise typical racist redneck, I actually think he doesn't care if I date a Black girl. He's funny like that, in that he says all the racist things all the time, but when interacting with other races, he never has any problems with them. And I don't mean like act superficially nice, he literally is fine being friends with black, hispanics, or other Asians. Apparently it was the same with my American great-grandfather, who being the crotchety old racist, would still think nothing of offering a ride to a black hitchhiker or helping a black hobo. I guess that's southern hospitality for ya. He might have a problem with Viets tho. There weren't many Viets where I lived, so it didn't really come up that much, but I remember when I mentioned a Viet friend of mine, he said something like, "Never trust a Vietnamese." He's probably still bitter since he lost his father in Nam.
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Post by EA Observer on Nov 25, 2008 13:27:36 GMT -5
She says that all of the girls I date look the same, though- even the ones who aren't asian. Did she mean that as a compliment or criticism?
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Post by EA Observer on Nov 25, 2008 13:39:08 GMT -5
I'll admit that at the time, I wasn't really attracted to Vietnamese/Asian guys(this was back in New Orleans), but since moving out here to Phoenix, well I almost never see any other than the ones in my immediate family. Out here, it's mainly either white or latino folk. For the rare times that I'd come across any, I'd feel a sense of refreshment and nostalgia, and it just hit me hard and made me realize "I want this back in my life". And I never expected this to happen, but if anything, I've come to miss being around Vietnamese/Asian people and would have no problem dating an Asian guy. That said, this is largely a part of why I've been planning to move out of here within hopefully a few years time, to an area that's more racially-friendly and has a more prominent Vietnamese community. I find it a tad ironic that as someone who didn't find Asian men attractive or desirable to date, before, now you yearn for them since moving to a city that has few of them but mostly white and latino men. What's there to make you dread Asian men, again, once you move to N.O. or any other place where there are many of them?
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Post by dead0baby0chick on Nov 25, 2008 14:03:46 GMT -5
I don't care what my parents think. All kinds of opinions get spouted at me and I just don't take any notice. Who I like is who I like, and I'm actually pretty picky as far as real "like" goes, so I'm not going to let any pissypants naysayers change my mind.
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Post by treedwellingcow on Nov 25, 2008 15:02:12 GMT -5
I find it a tad ironic that as someone who didn't find Asian men attractive or desirable to date, before, now you yearn for them since moving to a city that has few of them but mostly white and latino men. What's there to make you dread Asian men, again, once you move to N.O. or any other place where there are many of them? Wow since when does "not attracted to" mean "dread"? Why do you care so much who she finds attractive or not?
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Post by straylight on Nov 25, 2008 16:07:54 GMT -5
I don't care what my parents think. All kinds of opinions get spouted at me and I just don't take any notice. Who I like is who I like, and I'm actually pretty picky as far as real "like" goes, so I'm not going to let any pissypants naysayers change my mind. i'm with you sista my parents actually never get involved though. my mom once (crazily) tried to get me to green card marry some thai girl, and sort of hints at wishing i'd be bring a thai girl into the fold (i think my mom just needs a daughter to be honest), but she, as well as my dad have been cool. my dad encourages the asian thing jokingly, just because he thinks i'd eat healthier with a girl like that around. lmao. i may just to do that too, who knows. i just happen to date a PERSON. not the their f***ing race. if the right one so happens to be asian, then so be it.
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Post by TeeHee on Nov 25, 2008 20:23:13 GMT -5
I'll admit that at the time, I wasn't really attracted to Vietnamese/Asian guys(this was back in New Orleans), but since moving out here to Phoenix, well I almost never see any other than the ones in my immediate family. Out here, it's mainly either white or latino folk. For the rare times that I'd come across any, I'd feel a sense of refreshment and nostalgia, and it just hit me hard and made me realize "I want this back in my life". And I never expected this to happen, but if anything, I've come to miss being around Vietnamese/Asian people and would have no problem dating an Asian guy. That said, this is largely a part of why I've been planning to move out of here within hopefully a few years time, to an area that's more racially-friendly and has a more prominent Vietnamese community. I find it a tad ironic that as someone who didn't find Asian men attractive or desirable to date, before, now you yearn for them since moving to a city that has few of them but mostly white and latino men. What's there to make you dread Asian men, again, once you move to N.O. or any other place where there are many of them? Ironic indeed. As I said before, I never expected it to come to this point. While I wouldn't go as far as saying that I'd yearn specifically/only for them, I am open towards the prospect, granted that such hypothetical individual fit qualities I like that aren't race-related, and this same concept applies to every race/ethnicity. Regardless of race/ethnicity of the person I date, I want to keep that community in my life, and whoever I end up settling down with would have to accept that part of me. What originally turned me off from those Asian individuals/guys I hated when I was back in N.O.…well, I'm not gonna elaborate on that again; I make no apologies for hating assholes, as that's what they were to me. At the same time, I don't deny that there are good-looking nice decent ones out there too, hence, I wouldn't rule them out. That said, there are assholes and bitches in every race so. I don't plan on ever living in NOLA again; visit, yes(I'm actually going back there for a cousin's wedding in early January in fact), but live, never again, for many reasons. For starters, I got tired of the humid heat and running from hurricanes every year. Hurricane Katrina was the last straw. The fact that my family's only source of livelihood got looted in the process was another; we'd essentially have to start from scratch and N.O. just wasn't/isn't the place for us to do that. It wouldn't have been in my best interests. At the time that I first thought about/decided to move to Phoenix, I'd somehow gotten the impression that this would be a racially/culturally-friendly area where I could build up my resume/profession and prosper again. While I am slowly but surely rebuilding my education/profession and know I have a lot of potential in what I plan to do, I was so wrong about the former. It was a culture shock that completely blew up in my face like the Hindenburg. I intend to stay along the west coast though, as that seems to be where there's most opportunity for someone like me.
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