Children of a Different Race

[buffyuna]

Jun 11, 2009 2:17:54 GMT -5 jefe said:

My cousin's daughter is 1/2 Chinese, 1/2 Irish-American (looks kinda like Maggie Q). She had a boy with a man who is about 3/4 African-American 1/4 Louisiana French (mostly African-American looking, but with some Euro features), so her son is about 3/8 African, 1/4 Chinese, 3/8 Caucasian and ethnically ambiguous looking.

That's a cool mix, I wonder how the son will identify.
It's kind of similar to my dad and his sister's. Their dad was Filipino
and their mom was black with unknown white admixture.
One aunt looks Filipino, the Other white/black Mulatto, and My dad looks Mexican Or Middle Eastern

[eanpavel]

Well if I was full Caucasian basing on all my bad experiences as EA now I would prefer to have full white children. Ufortunately I see my “Eurasianness” more like a burden than a blessing, feel kind of stigmatized. I wouldn’t let my children to have all these kind of problems that I have nowadays.

He went on to say that he had to think about whether or not he'd want a half Asian child.

It’s good he considers that. I think some mixed couples are blinded by love and too naive thinking that world and society r changing and their children won’t suffer because of racism and racial stereotypes in the future...

[jefe]

^ I am really curious about your situation.

You seem to have many negative feelings about your Vietnamese heritage, but went and studied Mandarin Chinese.

There are many times when I thought I would not consider having children growing up with the struggle of being multi-racial. Then I also think about the case of having a 3/4 whatever kid who could have passed as "full" were it not for his Eurasian Dad, and therefore felt a bit ashamed of his Dad. :-(

But, we have to look at these struggles not as a problem per se, but as a "character shaper". It may create some problems, but may also create some unique opportunities that only you can take advantage of.

[taiping]

To be honest, I'd only ever want to marry an Eurasian and have Eurasian children. I've always been attracted to Eurasians, I have never really been attracted to white or Asian women. I suppose it's common for people to marry their own race, and thus I would only ever like to marry an Eurasian. Now of course I am not putting race in front of love, I'm not a supporter of eugenics, but I just feel so attracted to Eurasians because I am one, and I would really want my children to share the same blessing I have of being Eurasian

[eanjetboy]

taiping,

an interesting comment... that you are attracted to eurasians.. what happens if there are not many where you are??? whilst the mix is more common these days, i see quite a few teenagers who are mixed and people in their 20's... for the older generation, there are not many of us around...

lets call the older generation like myself the Gen Y's LOL

in terms of being a green eyed eurasian male myself which apparently is quite rare, how do you determine whether you are attracted to a particular race mix if you have never come across someone like that???

[taiping]

eanjetboy

Thank you for the reply. I live in Beijing, which is a melting pot of western and eastern cultures. There are so many Eurasians in Beijing, nearly all of them being around my age. This is because during the latter part of the 90s China did more business with Europe and America which resulted in a massive amount of western expatriates moving to China and marrying local Chinese women. So I'm used to seeing a lot of Eurasians, although we are not a majority at my school (most are Korean).

I've told some of my friends about my relationship preference, and I've mainly got negative feedback from them (even from my Eurasian friends). They state that I shouldn't care about race, and that I should focus more about love and not be such a ''racist''. They actually do have a point; I shouldn't have any problem mixing with other races because I'm already ''mixed'' . However I suppose ultimately I like Eurasians....and nothing can change that. I've never been attracted to white, Asian or black girls; I've only been attracted to Eurasian girls. I'm surprised that, as far as I know, Eurasians tend not to marry each other, because I just feel that our uniqueness should be conserved (which is why I really encourage us to marry each other, so that we can have more of a national identity).

Also I really want my children to be ''fully blooded'' Eurasians (strictly speaking 1/2 white and 12/Asian). I don't want them to have to suffer the same racism and discrimination I had to go through in my childhood. Thus they would feel better knowing that both of their parents are Eurasian. I suppose they would logically be considered ''Second Generation Eurasians'' (seems like I've coined a new genetic term).


EDIT: Either way of course Eurasians are not naturally attracted to other Eurasians. It's just that my relationship preference is Eurasian. I just feel that the theory of races commonly marrying their own race kinda applies to me, in my case it's with Eurasians.

[Raine]

As a parent to two eurasian children I wanted to give them a blueprint to their unique cultural expression based on identifying the best of Eastern and Western worldviews.

I think that it is an ideal time to be Eurasian as stats indicate mixed race majority by 2050 and also Eastern and Western culture is finally realizing that east and West worldviews are complementary in many ways.

I have uploaded research and insights for those who share this interest.

rainelawyuen.hubpages.com/

[ealuv]

I am sorry to say this.  I think full-blooded Asians prefer full-blooded Caucasians over Eurasians.  I believe they are all equal.

There is another issue that exists out there.  People usually compare all the races at once, believing there are usually only 2 or 3 races.  1 group is mixed race.