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Post by jenbrook on Feb 19, 2007 2:45:23 GMT -5
^Yea thats true to some extent. But when you truly dont have a home and your life is scattered everywhere in bits and pieces, it tends to be harder to just 'put it away' and forget about it.
Half of me is grateful for the nature of my upbringing and the other half is detatched and lost. Its an internal conflict that spills over into other areas of my life.. Why i cant hold a relationship for very long, why i have so few real friends..
Its all to do with the constant transition from place to place. My personality, accent, appearence changes depending on the people i'm with and the place i'm in. Some consistency would be nice for a change.
Sooooo.. I dont dwell on it much, but the negative aspects of being a "mixed race multi-national third culture kid" does tend to lurk in my mind.
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Post by telliecoin on Feb 19, 2007 3:36:00 GMT -5
i always think of myself as "special"
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Post by saeka on Feb 19, 2007 3:46:15 GMT -5
I try not to dwell on it but it's extremely difficult not to... x___x
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Post by halfbreed on Feb 19, 2007 4:14:00 GMT -5
To the depression part of this thread about Identity issues, I think If you dwell on it and look at it as a negative aspect, your looking for depression then. Pain's always a pleasure.
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Post by scott on Feb 19, 2007 8:33:46 GMT -5
Maybe if you were emo, maybe.
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Post by halfbreed on Sept 17, 2007 7:58:56 GMT -5
Today:- Korean girl: Are you Australian? HB: Yes. KG: You don't look Australian. HB: I'm half Chinese. KG: Chinese?? I always thought people thought I was white... turns out they think I'm neither! *crisis*
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Sept 17, 2007 8:09:42 GMT -5
It can be soo frustrating. I mean I am not neccessarily EA but on the biracial perspective. I am too dark to be chinese and too asian to be indian. They want to smoosh me into filipino and I hate that people tell me that is what I am instead of listening to me. I have no connection or identification to that ethnicity so it is hard to relate when they say that. Just all this stereo typing and it seems sometimes people want to relate to mono racial people more. Biracial is like too much of an enigma.
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Post by halfbreed on Sept 17, 2007 8:12:11 GMT -5
Being biracial is like, not even a possibility in so many people's minds.
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Sept 17, 2007 8:13:13 GMT -5
^ I know. Seems like some of the guys I like would rather be with a mono racial asian and I am still not good enough.
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Post by halfbreed on Sept 17, 2007 8:16:30 GMT -5
It sounds like you're getting put down a lot by men.
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Post by morningstar on Sept 17, 2007 8:20:03 GMT -5
What if you are a dual citizen, brought up in Country Y, and thus have that accent, but now have moved to country X where you also have citizenship.
Furthermore, when you were in country Y to begin with, you always knew you were going back to Country X, thus have a few friends, but nothing very special, as the intention was always to start life anew in country X.
However once arriving in Country X, the accent makes you stick out like a sore thumb, so much so that people naturally assume you are a foreigner which has caused endless amount of trouble with regards to documents etc.
If someone asks you what nationality you are, would you say Country X or Country Y?
If you say Country Y, which you grew up in, and are never going back to, it is true, but now that you are settling in country X, wouldnt it be weird to forever have to bring up Country Y? Especially since you are a citizen of Country X AND Y!!
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Post by cm on Sept 17, 2007 9:33:21 GMT -5
To the depression part of this thread about Identity issues, I think If you dwell on it and look at it as a negative aspect, your looking for depression then. well, it's always easy to use quotes for positive psychology books, and tell people not to be depressed, and tell them they are stupid for being depressed. It's more difficult to be empathetic. Professionals in the realm of psychology use active listening techniques and don't criticize the depressed. The very thing they are looking to achieve is how to 'not' dwell on it.
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Post by Ave` on Sept 17, 2007 9:57:29 GMT -5
Im happy abt it...woohooo see..no depression
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Sept 17, 2007 13:13:38 GMT -5
It sounds like you're getting put down a lot by men. Yes its really draining- Tx Cresolence!
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Post by shugi on Sept 17, 2007 13:20:40 GMT -5
To the depression part of this thread about Identity issues, I think If you dwell on it and look at it as a negative aspect, your looking for depression then. well, it's always easy to use quotes for positive psychology books, and tell people not to be depressed, and tell them they are stupid for being depressed. It's more difficult to be empathetic. Professionals in the realm of psychology use active listening techniques and don't criticize the depressed. The very thing they are looking to achieve is how to 'not' dwell on it. No to the first part yes to the second. & I never quoted, said or accused anybody of being stupid. Although you should apply & live two things you typed with yourself firstly before trying to tell it to other people.
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