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Post by daisypukes on Nov 22, 2007 18:49:23 GMT -5
Thoughts/opinions? Guys, do you consider women who approach you to be desperate/easy? Or are you thrilled that you don't have to make the effort for once? Girls, do you ever approach men you find attractive? Or are you afraid to? Or do you just prefer them to approach you?
I've found in my dating life, that I do a lot of the approaching. I don't think that's because I'm desperate or unattractive. It just seems that most of the guys that approach me are unattractive to me in some way. I go for shy guys a lot, the ones that don't approach for fear of rejection or because they are intimidated, what have you. A lot of the relationships I've had have started with me approaching a guy, and they always seem so thrilled by it. Maybe that's also because my ideal type is somewhat unpopular with other girls, so maybe they were all so thrilled because they'd never been approached by a girl before...ever. I dunno.
I've also found that I have to change my attitude slightly depending on where I'm living. In the West it seems far more acceptable to approach a guy, in the East...not so much. Anyway, share your thoughts/opinions.
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Post by ConceptDesign on Nov 23, 2007 1:15:58 GMT -5
I think its a top idea Enid. Especially if she's , that way the man is in the enviable position to fling drink on her face, go 'what ever' or simply arch a brow and shake his head dismissively.
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Post by Aiko on Nov 23, 2007 2:23:53 GMT -5
I don't ever approach guys ever. But hey, if she's got it and can approach guys, good for her.
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Post by Ave` on Nov 23, 2007 2:34:14 GMT -5
I always approach guys that I find attractive. I hate playing games, or deriving plans, I make it as simple as possible. Id ask him casually and I dont find it degrading at all. But if the guy gonna get uneasy or whoa whats up with this girl. Id just forget him. He needs to grow up to appreciate a women like me. No time wasted.
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Post by daisypukes on Nov 23, 2007 3:14:29 GMT -5
@cd: Sounds like you've had a lot of rejection in your time. Need a shoulder to cry on?
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Post by black mamba on Nov 23, 2007 22:53:43 GMT -5
I don't think there's anything wrong with girls who muster up the courage to approach guys. I do it if I'm feeling ballsy drunk ballsy. Personally, I think it allows a chick to pick-and-choose a bit better, instead of having to deal with someone gyrating on her leg all night.
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Post by Aiko on Nov 24, 2007 0:26:31 GMT -5
I just I make it really obvious that I'm interested and usually if they reciprocate the interest, they ask me out. I don't know why I do this. Maybe it's because I'm so traditional.
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Nov 24, 2007 3:14:56 GMT -5
I love girls who can approach a guy - it eliminates a lot of bull s*** that women in general are the source of.
The truth is, guys art simplistic and women tend to offset this by being overly complex with tons of BS rules. This of course does not apply to all women, but MOST.
I love a girl who has the confidence approach, but hate girls who run with this and throw themselves/flirt with every cute guy they meet. It's quite obnoxious if it gets to that point.
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Post by tbw on Nov 25, 2007 16:11:58 GMT -5
I wish girls were more forward sometimes! I got the 'love letter' in high school from a cute girl, I ended up asking her out after a few letters back and forth, but still its nice to know she took the 'first move'
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Post by avax on Nov 26, 2007 11:18:19 GMT -5
First move? Uh I don't keep track. I stay away from people who don't know what they want, or those that are too afraid/high and mighty/indifferent. Not my crowd. Period. Tbw, your avatar is f***ing hilarious. The truth is, guys art simplistic and women tend to offset this by being overly complex with tons of BS rules. This of course does not apply to all women, but MOST. When you find the correct woman, you'll want those rules.
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Post by penguinopolipitese on Nov 26, 2007 20:31:25 GMT -5
I just I make it really obvious that I'm interested Women always think they're being obvious but it ends up the guy has no idea of what's going on. Unless you write "BONE ME" on your forehead I would contest that it's not obvious.
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Post by tbw on Nov 26, 2007 22:31:07 GMT -5
^LOL 'bone me' written on a persons forehead would get me thinking that its a practical joke (on them if anything!) It would be a great conversational starter too. But i agree with that; what's an easy hint for girls, guys maybe oblivious to.
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Post by daisypukes on Nov 26, 2007 22:59:49 GMT -5
True, men don't pick up on subtleties. Whether you're trying to hint that you're interested or hint that you're NOT interested, they tend to be slow on understanding.
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Post by Aznlatina on Nov 27, 2007 7:14:36 GMT -5
Last spring, I decided that I wanted to tell a guy that I liked him. I wanted to see if it would be any different. Mind you, I thought this would be a piece of cake: he and I enjoyed eachother's company, laughed a lot, and a couple of times he openly mentioned that he was single. All signs seemed to point to suggest that this would work out well. And so, I did it. As I mustered up this courage, he responded with, "I would love to, but my girlfriend wouldn't like that." Ouch! I don't think I have the energy to muster up this kind of courage, after this experience.
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Post by saeka on Nov 27, 2007 7:44:22 GMT -5
^^ HUH? He mentions he was single and he goes and says he has a girlfriend? Unless in between the time he got a girlfriend?
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