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Post by fumanchu on Dec 29, 2007 3:38:24 GMT -5
Girls approaching first is the way to go! I've been asked out virtually every time by my girlfriends, or we've kissed or something really obvious to let me know a relationship is on the cards. I know it's incredibly lame of me, but i've still managed to date most of the girls i've liked. On the rare occassion that i've plucked up the courage and asked the girl, I am faced with the terrible truth that i'm a clueless buffoon and have no idea what I am doing. Disaster quickly ensues.
On a tangent, i've never really bothered to approach random girls in bars because it just seemed that the more of an obnoxious arrogant prick you be, the better your chance of actually impressing the girl and picking her up. This has been confirmed by un-scientific tests by my friends. What's up with that?
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Post by viruslabrat on Dec 29, 2007 8:26:41 GMT -5
^I like cutting down obnoxious arrogant pricks by being a smart-ass. A few guys that I know have said that I can make some funny but cutting remarks. I don't know, maybe having to fend off an obnoxious prick makes it more exciting? And if a girl's more interested then maybe that increases the prick's chances if the girl's not fussy. It probably buys the guy some time with his target too.
What I want to know is why does every new guy I meet want to engage me in some sort of intellectual debate? Is it something guys do because they feel they need to impress me (maybe I give out weird brainiac vibes??)? Even when it's obvious I like clowning around with my friends I still get suckered into these conversations.
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Post by fumanchu on Dec 30, 2007 0:10:52 GMT -5
do you remember to take off the white lab coat when you go out for a night on the town?
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Post by avax on Dec 30, 2007 13:22:02 GMT -5
^I like cutting down obnoxious arrogant pricks by being a smart-ass. A few guys that I know have said that I can make some funny but cutting remarks. I don't know, maybe having to fend off an obnoxious prick makes it more exciting? And if a girl's more interested then maybe that increases the prick's chances if the girl's not fussy. It probably buys the guy some time with his target too. What I want to know is why does every new guy I meet want to engage me in some sort of intellectual debate? Is it something guys do because they feel they need to impress me (maybe I give out weird brainiac vibes??)? Even when it's obvious I like clowning around with my friends I still get suckered into these conversations. Ew. Reminds me of when I used to be a girl.
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Post by honeyviper on Dec 30, 2007 15:07:37 GMT -5
What I want to know is why does every new guy I meet want to engage me in some sort of intellectual debate? Is it something guys do because they feel they need to impress me Let's trade. I don't get enough intellectual debating. I like friction.
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Post by clara on Dec 30, 2007 15:42:12 GMT -5
i tend to go for the shy types. If I really like someone I'll usually drop hints or make it blatantly obvious I'm interested and leave the ball in their court... I'm still a bit old fashioned when it comes to stuff like that, but in doing so maybe I've missed out on something special
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Post by viruslabrat on Jan 5, 2008 4:47:49 GMT -5
What I want to know is why does every new guy I meet want to engage me in some sort of intellectual debate? Is it something guys do because they feel they need to impress me (maybe I give out weird brainiac vibes??)? Even when it's obvious I like clowning around with my friends I still get suckered into these conversations. He's trying to appreciate your mind. Something which women say they want Mmm.... that's nice but a 4 hour conversation about various languages and the difference in laws between states is a bit much. But maybe fumanchu's right, when a guy asks me what my job is and I say "medical scientist" I can tell what he's thinking.
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Post by ChickenSoda on Jan 5, 2008 6:12:28 GMT -5
What if you compromised and said that you were a hair scientist?
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Post by fumanchu on Jan 5, 2008 6:37:00 GMT -5
perhaps you ladies can give some tips on what us hapless guys should be talking about......when we aren't busy drooling on ourselves
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Post by long on Jan 5, 2008 6:38:59 GMT -5
Guys aren't really supposed to talk.. just let the girls talk about themselves!! Act interested!! All too easy.
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Post by long on Jan 5, 2008 7:24:22 GMT -5
If you feel like it's a job interview you're not asking the right questions; or maybe you're not talking to the right girls.
Hmm, perhaps I could say 'girls that like you want to tell you about themselves'.
You're probably just too serious. ;D
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Post by ChickenSoda on Jan 5, 2008 8:25:58 GMT -5
Just to kind of relate this line of thought back to the topic, I CANNOT f**king stand when girls approach me as if they were conducting some kind of market research. "What kind of music do you like? What kind of movies do you like? What was the last movie you saw? Would do you do for fun? Would you eat beans with George Wendt while watching George Wendt movies"? (Ok, that last question would probably win her some points). But seriously, and I'm sure that this applies just as much for guys approaching girls, that sh*t is suicide. In fact, it'd probably make more sense for the interested party to give facts about themselves. "Hi, my name is ____. I listen to _____ and watch ______. My favorite _____ is _____. I (would/would not) eat beans with George Wendt. I aspire to one day dingle your dangle", etc.
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Post by Emily on Jan 5, 2008 9:07:33 GMT -5
perhaps you ladies can give some tips on what us hapless guys should be talking about......when we aren't busy drooling on ourselves Sorry buddy, no magic formula. All girls are different. Zoff, are you trying to chat up girls in circumstances that could have them guarded?
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Post by Emily on Jan 5, 2008 10:08:10 GMT -5
^ I don't know...were you saying you find it difficult to get women talking in a non-date or date setting?
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Post by Ishman on Jan 5, 2008 10:18:56 GMT -5
^^The best conversation starter for me in a date setting is to ask a girl what she does for a living, and then if it's not totally obvious (like if she's a teacher or something) say "Ok, well I sort of know what that is, but what do you do? Like take me through a typical day." Since, I think in general, women tend to be rather detail oriented, they'll really take you through their day, give you all the details, and it helps if you occasionally ask questions for clarification along the way. After that things usually go pretty well. I mean think about it, who, male or female, doesn't like to talk about themselves for 15 minutes.
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