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Post by TeeHee on Dec 22, 2006 4:51:48 GMT -5
i had initially stated that i'd date white/mixed guys. with the mixed guys, i would have more mixed looking children and i think that's what i want. i don't really want to annhilate my asianness/whiteness in my children. That's kinda like me, alongside the fact that I'm generally attracted to white/EA guys as it is. The only way I'd have 50-50EA kids if they were with a 3/4white-1/4asian. If I were to have kids with a full white or 50-50EA, they would be 5/8white-3/8asian or 5/8asian-3/8white respectively, which I still consider to be fairly mixed. whereas if I were to have them with a full asian, they'd be 7/8asian-1/8white. I've dated all of those in the past(full white, 3/4white-1/4asian, 50-50EA, and full asian) along with a few mixed black and latino guys as well. The current bf is full white. unlike all the guys I've dated in the past, he seems like a keeper, and I can actually see myself settling down with him, so who knows. but yea, I'd like to keep it fairly mixed, neither one side heavily taking over the other. |
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Post by Jaded Lady on Dec 22, 2006 17:26:12 GMT -5
Children...that's odd.
I don't plan on having children of my own but I would assume that if I did, it wouldn't matter what background the father is because no matter what those kids are going to end up with something from me.
But as for being racist towards my Asian side, I'm North American and I was born and raised in the epicentre of the Cultural Mosiac. I'm not very connected to my Asian side. I know what I know about it and I find out new things everyday. Are there things that I don't like? Yes, but if they were to "show up" in any other cultural setting, I would still feel the same way about it.
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Post by chinesejewfool on Dec 24, 2006 23:29:50 GMT -5
Do you guys, who say I want to date <insert race here> because I want my kids to look <insert race here>, realize there is something really wrong with what you are saying?
You are basically saying you would rather have your child one race than another. You guys are putting one race over another. Isn't tha the definition of racism? To hold a race supierior to another? Isn't that hte same thinking that led Hitler's death camps? That the Arian race is above all?
Shouldn't it not matter what racial makeup your kid is of, just as long as he or she is your kid?
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Post by cewek on Dec 25, 2006 4:48:25 GMT -5
This lady I knew( my friends mum friend) only wanted to marry a footballer because of the big sporty physique and general all round physical built like a sh!thouseness. She did, and was looking forward to her sons being born and following dads way, but she had a daughter .Who resembles dad exactly.
So you just cant plan how your kids will turn out even if you try to!
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Post by peachluck on Oct 28, 2008 19:42:12 GMT -5
I married an asian guy but only cos I fell in love with him and he doesnt have the typical skinny body and geeky persona. In fact he has a bit of a rugby players bod.
The only other asian guy I was attracted to was viet and he was really good looking and cool.
I find most asian guys a bit of a turn off. If I were to date Euro it would be italian.
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Post by conorsoccr23 on May 20, 2010 17:34:50 GMT -5
its not ur fault its jus how u view things but then asians get mad at us bcuz we r white looking asians and r idk they think tht looking whiter is better
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Post by synthguy on Jul 27, 2010 11:18:47 GMT -5
I do prefer Asian females over white females. I never found white females attractive to me, most of them I've met are so cold and mean from my experience. As for Asian females, they're more friendlier and heart-warming.
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Post by bamina on May 22, 2011 22:46:56 GMT -5
I married a Caucasian woman. My parents were fine with it (why wouldn't they be...they each married someone outside their spheres).
It was not out of preference, but rather probability.
My dad always told my uncles and aunts (his brothers and sisters) that they need to accept that there children will likely marry someone caucasian--since the area in which we live has something along the lines of a 5% or less Asian population.
The only way I could have married someone Asian or Eurasian would be to set out to intentionally find someone of that description. I guess I just don't work that way.
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Post by jefe on Jun 18, 2011 10:40:48 GMT -5
Sometimes things are not consciously intentional, but people are led in certain directions.
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Post by donger on Jun 21, 2011 22:25:12 GMT -5
I'm sorry but people with a racial agenda for partners make me sick. It disgusts me. I look at the person--what her interests are, how smart she is, making sure she's a non-smoker (hey. I've turned down some good-looking women for smoking), what she does for a living, whether she's musician (yes, she HAS to be) etc. Race is not a consideration and, for the life of me, I do not understand how it can be. What differerence does it make?? A person's race canNOT make you happy or guarantee a successful marriage or smart children or anything. It's a selfish, stupid, self-destructive culturally ingrained habit that guarantees the opposite. I'm trying to picture my parents telling about how they only like whites or Asians and it would make me nauseous to hear it. Some people here need to grow up before even considering marriage because you're NOT going to make it.
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Post by hamstar on Jul 4, 2011 9:02:24 GMT -5
I've met a really nice malaysian/white guy who I happen to have a lot in common with, we are pretty close now. I'm a few years older than he is so I tend to think of myself as an older brother to him. The one thing that sort of sticks out to me with him is that he is clearly ashamed of being part-Asian. It's not just the fact that he tries his best to dress 'white' but I seldom hear him complain about his Asian features.
He's 24 but he is really insecure about the way he looks. He has fair skin like white people but he'll get upset over how Asian his eyes are or how small his hands are. I really didn't know what to say to him because I thought telling him eyes were beauuuuutiful would be interpreted in the wrong way.
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Post by toyomansi on Jan 20, 2012 22:20:58 GMT -5
I'm sorry but people with a racial agenda for partners make me sick. It disgusts me. I look at the person--what her interests are, how smart she is, making sure she's a non-smoker (hey. I've turned down some good-looking women for smoking), what she does for a living, whether she's musician (yes, she HAS to be) etc. Race is not a consideration and, for the life of me, I do not understand how it can be. What differerence does it make?? A person's race canNOT make you happy or guarantee a successful marriage or smart children or anything. It's a selfish, stupid, self-destructive culturally ingrained habit that guarantees the opposite. I'm trying to picture my parents telling about how they only like whites or Asians and it would make me nauseous to hear it. Some people here need to grow up before even considering marriage because you're NOT going to make it. I agree with what you're saying, but how about people going for partners of a certain race because of the person's culture, values, beliefs, interests, sense of humor, food culture etc.? I mean if an EA happens to be mostly raised in their Asian culture, they would probably find much more in common with Asian guys than with white guys (or vice versa). |
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Post by eanpavel on Jan 21, 2012 17:31:18 GMT -5
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You are right. Cultural background makes ppl feel closer to each other in some ways. I definitely would prefer to date a person with similar values and way of thinking, which of course doesn’t refer to Caucasians exclusively. Yet culture can even influence our personal preferences and views on physical attractiveness – each culture has its own perception of ideal beauty and we definitely were influenced by that growing up in a given society. Of course in the era of globalization these ideals were heavily westernized – just look how many clinics in Asia offer surgeries that are intended to make Asian face look more Caucasian. Well, I grew up in the West and exclusively white society, so no wonder that Western perception of beauty influenced me more, and thus typically Caucasian traits seem more attractive to me. Nontheless I still could find some Asians attractive – if only they have traits that I personally find attractive – it also applies to Caucasians, Eurasians and any other race – of course I won’t find ppl attractive just because they are Caucasians (or any other race)...Well I just can’t help that the traits I find attractive are so rarely seen among Asians, I won’t call it racism.
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