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Post by scott on Apr 19, 2008 1:41:29 GMT -5
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Post by viruslabrat on Apr 20, 2008 9:29:46 GMT -5
Man, you're not even 30 and you've already given up! Did you know pessimism is a huge turn-off for people of both sexes?
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Post by dannyd on Apr 20, 2008 16:24:39 GMT -5
Um, good luck with that. I'm sure you'll come across many quality partners ;P I'm sure Krez would like that.  Difficult predicament JCYH. I'd end up having to go all or nothing. Clever ideas, I do not have, but having been in a similar situation in the past I'd definitely warn against letting it go to late. Even after the sheila officially announced she was dating this other bloke I had the sh*ts so badly I had to tell her what I thought of everything. She was visibly upset, and accused me of stuffing up by not being clearer with her earlier. She let me know it was totally on and by just being so cool about it she figured I didn't see her in that light. I mean she picked up on the cues, but they were inconsistant with my general demeanor which confused her. The other bloke layed it all down from the very start. For a number of reasons I held back alot which I won't go into, but I thought I was behaving in the appropriate manner. Turns out no. Despite her feelings, she wasn't going to toss him out the door now that we'd cleared up what was between us. I mean she didn't start dating him for no reason either, I guess it is possible to like a couple of people. Sadly we're in very little contact these days. That's because of me, but that's another story. Anyway, I have no solution but to perhaps inject a bit of urgency into your actions. perhaps you're unlike me in this regards but I found because of those feelings, despite how well we worked on a personal level, that my natural instincts just refuse to let me live with it wholeheartedly and as a result I avoid her, make excuses to her coffee invitations etc. That's what I meant by all or nothing. |
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on Apr 20, 2008 22:25:58 GMT -5
I saw her again today.
DannyD, I think things right now for me are exactly how they were with you. And, I did indeed step up the urgency, but I think she is beginning to see my intentions and is reacting accordingly: keeping more distance between us now.
A lot of people tell me you've gotta go after what you want, but sometimes no matter how perfect your game is, if you miss the window of opportunity it never comes back... and you gotta move on.
So, I will keep my eyes peeled for opportunities with her, but, I think it's about time I wash my hands clean of this situation and move on. I prefer to have a clear head when tackling my every day duties rather than waste my mind stressing over a girl - I'd only let myself come to that for a girl I have a long history with.
- John
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Post by honeyviper on Apr 23, 2008 16:19:15 GMT -5
Do you think that she may have wanted to study your reaction to the "bomb drop"? To feel you out and see what you would say about it? Maybe she's testing you. I thought about this... however I think her motives are still mostly sincere. What boggles my mind is I know she genuinely likes this new guy but has become increasingly forward/flirtateous with me despite the fact. There is the possibility she treats all of her guy friends this way, but I've seen her around plenty of guys, and she really doesn't. But yeah, I was going to insist she comes alone this weekend - just gonna tell her I wanna be selfish and have her all to myself that night :-P So has anyone else ever been in the predicament? Either in the guy's or girl's situation. I know a lot of women who do this testing and push-pull game, so I have difficulty believing in the sincerity. Hopefully you can maintain a friendship if that works. |
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Post by JohnCoolYoungHistory on May 1, 2008 2:46:16 GMT -5
Girls are a silly, silly breed.
I went to a dinner banquet and paid no attention to this chick... instead, sat next to another female and hit it off with her (and I'm sure the girl noticed).
The next day I get a playful phonecall out of the blue from her for a lunch invite... this was following about 2 weeks of no contact.
I like playing games but sometimes enough is enough
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Post by JohnnyUtah on May 14, 2008 15:07:17 GMT -5
Lunch date? FRIEND ZONE ALERT!!!! phone her and cancel!! just like in the movie "Just Friends"
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Post by Roam'n on May 14, 2008 22:33:28 GMT -5
All girls are in my friends zone. No exceptions. Makes it real easy to poke fun at them |
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Post by laidbacksonic74 on May 15, 2008 18:07:43 GMT -5
same as Roam'n ....all girls are also in my friend zone....it's easy...and indeed no exceptions....prefer chillin then to be nervous....and when it happens it will happens ...
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Post by ChickenSoda on May 17, 2008 3:29:44 GMT -5
All girls are in my Enemies Zone. I liken my penis to some kind of medieval pike or other kind of skewering object, inflicting pain and destruction with every thrust.
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Post by PerzanKitCat86205 on Jun 8, 2008 18:26:25 GMT -5
Yea, me, too. I was very nice to all these dorky kids growing up. A lot of my friends are great value to me being light blonds with blue eyes from the New England region etc. who moved to Florida around age maybe 7 or 8 or 9 or 10 or 11. They talked to me at first, but sort of left because I didn't look turned on and out of wack. A lot of complication. Supposedly, they still like to talk to me. I've been to Disney with people, as well, and know people's families, even. I could still write to them, and they'd be just like open. Every time I see someone who knows this, my privacy was over. I get judged for the fact that I didn't know Sheer Blond and such spa existed as a 2-year-old. I was completely clean and ready to intereact. The chore thing? Yea, not all rich kids do them.
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Post by rob on Jun 10, 2008 14:23:34 GMT -5
So I guess I entered the "Friends Zone" and now I need to get out of it before it's too late. Can anyone relate? Anyone got any clever advice? All I know is it's time for me to stop being a p**** and step up my A Game. Having been in this situation many times before its pretty clear what you need to do: whip out the shlong. Shlong-ing is kinda like that upside down twirly kick that Chun Li does in streetfighter... Its that last ditch move that shows 'em who's in control and gets you outta trouble really fast.It even works at awkward family events too. For instance, whenever Aunt Claire drones on with "the whole Jesus speech" at Thanksgiving, its almost like a crescendo in my head: whip it out. WHIP IT OUT. And voila. Problem solved. Give it a try and let us know how it goes. |
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Post by ChickenSoda on Jun 10, 2008 16:03:16 GMT -5
That only works if you also point at it and go "WHAT'RE WE GONNA DO ABOUT THIS?".
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Post by turboman on Jun 10, 2008 20:36:17 GMT -5
LOL! I haven't laughed that hard for ages ;D
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Jun 11, 2008 12:54:10 GMT -5
I think that you can't do much if someone considers you a friend. Its the level of attraction that changes friends to more you either have instanteneously and sometimes it may develop if there was some initial attraction but can't really be generated...you can't make a shift from one or another so clearly...I find its something that grows so all you can do is be honest about your feelings and take it at face value....don't worry too much about the he said she said thing or what if I do this.... too calculating and Idon't think love works that way. All you can do is just be yourself. You can't really change people's feelings all you can do is find what they are at the time.
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