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Post by rob on Feb 16, 2009 9:37:50 GMT -5
So, what drives you guys mad in your romantic relationships? I'm not talking about the headline stuff like religion, infidelity etc.... just the real niggly minor stuff that *shouldn't* make a difference (but does!).
Here's a few from my list:
- Picky eating habits e.g., She'll say she's hungry, but if the food doesn't meet her precise standards or if it's "doesn't look right", she just won't eat it. "But I thought you were hungry?!"
- Slapping me on the back I'm super touchy feely at heart, but I just feel irked out when a girl (or anyone) slaps me on the back. I have an issue with backslappers.
- Reads Gossip Rags I just absolutely hate celeb gossip mags. Nothing wrong with flipping through one that's sitting there at the salon, but girls who buy them? Ugh. She goes in the garbage can as well.
- Can't hold a baby I'm not exactly pushing for 50 kids (let alone marriage), but when a girl doesn't know how to hold a baby, it's a real turn-off to me. Maybe that's purely instinctive on my part.... or the fact I've raised most of my cousins and overvalue care-giver type qualities.
- Bad drivers Totally hypocritical as I've been in accidents myself, but when someone is really uncomfortable at the wheel and appears really uncoordinated (despite having had the opportunity to drive most of their adult life), it's just one of those things that make me go hmmmmm.
Anyone else have anything to contribute?
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Post by Cheryl on Feb 16, 2009 12:51:09 GMT -5
Picky eating habits - I can handle vegetarians (I was one for the past few years but had to stop due to health reasons) but if he has issues with food e.g hates seafood, won't eat sushi, spicy food, or worse is a calorie counter or says to me "you gonna eat THAT?" I drop him like a hot potato.
Looking at his own reflection at every opportunity - vain and superficial!
Shops more than me .. LOL ....less is more, people!
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Post by Groink on Feb 16, 2009 16:35:50 GMT -5
Crying all the time over every tiny thing.
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Post by thesa on Feb 18, 2009 6:18:44 GMT -5
Slooooooooooooow eaters - men (well, anyone actually) that talk a lot during eating and never forget to chew forty times for every spoonful. And the ones that eat as if they were in a 5-star restaurant all the time (not that I have been to one...)
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Post by amalgam on Feb 19, 2009 21:26:49 GMT -5
Adding on to that, how about the ones that spit their food at you while they talk. This happened to me before, not in a relationship or anything but like, they talk and you see this food chunk come out of their mouth and land right on your eye, or nose etc.
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Post by rob on Feb 20, 2009 13:23:20 GMT -5
OK, clearly most of you guys will date anything that moves!
I've got one more:
Makes fun of me for meeting ppl on the internet - i'm pretty open about the fact i meet ppl on the internet and as a result i take alot of flak from all directions... friends, siblings, parents, boss, u name it...... i can understand if i'm just another pimple faced emo loser like the rest of you but why am I an automatic loser for meeting people on the internet? what's wrong with a middle-aged man chatting up young girls on eurasian forums? or recruiting them for "modeling assignments" in asia? sheesh. and the worst accusers too are all those white people who just discovered facebook.
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Post by ahliang on Feb 20, 2009 17:44:46 GMT -5
So, what drives you guys mad in your romantic relationships? I'm not talking about the headline stuff like religion, infidelity etc.... just the real niggly minor stuff that *shouldn't* make a difference (but does!). Here's a few from my list: - Picky eating habits e.g., She'll say she's hungry, but if the food doesn't meet her precise standards or if it's "doesn't look right", she just won't eat it. "But I thought you were hungry?!" - that would be my biggest pet peeve as well: wastes food or is overly picky. especially meat/fish...if someone wastes a bit of rice or pasta, i can bear with that (even if i really don t like the fact that food is being wasted)...but if someone wastes meat...it drives me nuts...for my birthday present, i was invited by my "boss" to the country club to have dinner there. i m a vegetarian so i asked the veggie dish (the dish could be prepared with or without meat). turns out they put meat in it...i was sorting out the meat pieces but still eating the dish but my boss asked that they bring another one, without meat...the idea that because of me some poor cow got chopped into pieces to be cooked but then thrown away and that because i had asked the vegetarian dish, this entire dish ended up in the bin so that they could make a new one (i insisted on keeping the one with the meat but he didn t want that) drove me up a wall...i find it so direspectful to throw away meat that if i knew he was going to do that (ask for the dish to be replaced), i would have most likely eaten the dish with the meat anyways and told him i wasn t a vegetarian anymore...i enjoy good food and good presentation but when it comes to food, don t waste it. of course i d rather eat a fancy looking tamago sushi but i won t throw out the bowl of rice i was given either. take out/microwave/reheat. overly picky eaters are a BIG no no for me. Reads Gossip Rags: same. but for boys...except that not that many actually buy the magazines so i judge that on different standards...it really isn t hard to know more about celebrities than i do...but if they know more about them (or more than i would expect them to know...) than they know about the headline news...worst of all, if they start a conversation with me about celebrities...then no. spelling...a bit hypocritical since i m horrible myself at grammar/spelling...but i consider english to have fairly easy rules when it comes to that so when i see too many your/you re too/to then/than effect/affect mistakes or when i have to explain to them words that i use and that they, as native speakers don t know (recalls having had to explain what an onomatopoeia was)...i find it extremely disturbing...conjugation has to be done right... and phrasing has to be proper. i remember someone using "too" at the end of a sentence when "either" (can t remember the context exactly) should have been used instead and it greatly irked me... touches my head too much. maybe an asian thing but don t go about touching my head especially if we re not too familiar. i can take it after if we re very close even though i ll try to dodge it but don t touch my head. doesn t care for their grades/isn t hard working. i would say that s a given since everyone would rather date a hard worker than a slacker but i see that aspect of "hard work" (not necessarily talking about someone getting a 4.0 GPA but a B student who works long shifts outside of school to pay for college definitely falls under the hard worker category) as proof that someone has some sense of pride towards themselves and their family. |
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Post by LaFace on Feb 20, 2009 21:50:59 GMT -5
Ahliang, if you weren't going to eat the meat, wouldn't it have been thrown out anyway?
I agree though.
Girls who don't finish their food = forget about it.
Childish in my opinion.
Also agree on girls fascinated by celebrity gossip.
Agree on girls who are hopeless with children.
Agree on girls who are crap at driving AND don't really seem to care about improving.
VEHEMENTLY agree on girls who don't study/work hard. I think I set pretty high standards for the level of work ethic that I find attractive in a girl.
These aren't relationship pet peeves for me, these are turn-offs when I see a girl who might be considered date-worthy in the first place. Of the above, not finishing her food and not being a hard-worker would instantly kill her chances and bury them six feet deep before anything else even had a remote chance of happening.
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Post by ahliang on Feb 20, 2009 22:37:33 GMT -5
^no...i ve been feeding the dog the pieces of meat that i know will be thrown out...
and in this case i was more so referring to the fact that being a vegetarian, and thinking i was picky about food and thus that it would have made me happier to have another dish cooked for me, is in fact the opposite of what i would want. they threw out an entire meal because of me...i was was just pointing out that the fact that it contained meat made it even "harder" to know that it was being thrown away because of me.
the reason for which i m a vegetarian is entirely for reasons that are the polar opposites of me being picky about my food. i hate wasting food but what i hate the most is that animals are being killed to end up in a landfill. that some people can t be vegetarians, i can entirely understand. but that they waste food that comes from an animal that was sacrificed for their palate i don t...
i know i m a bit of an extremist about food waste...i ve only ever met one person that never wasted food and thought the same way i did. except he wasn t a vegetarian... but the other people i ve been with, i ve always told them not to waste food. some understand better than others...but as long as the person makes an effort i can bear with it...even if it truly breaks my heart to see food being wasted. for instance i once had a boyfriend who never ate the rice served in chinese restaurants because he was too picky about his rice and only ate japanese rice. he s learned to tell the waiter not to serve him the bowl of rice in the chinese restaurant rather than get the rice and knowingly let it sit there.
then again...sometimes i face a dilemma...when you take out food it s usually served in styrofoam containers...non degradable/non recyclable/plastic number 7, the worst possible kind. depending on the amount of food left i wonder if i d rather not waste the food or make them use a styrofoam container that i ll later throw out to polute the earth...
at thesa: i m a slow eater...what bugs me more in fact is when fast eaters go on off and do something else, leaving you to eat by yourself, because they can t stand to wait for you to finish your food. i think food should be eaten/enjoyed with people you love. family, friends...so eating with others is a "pleasure." if someone s bored out of their minds when they eat and can t appreciate the food, it somehow bothers me. i ve known fast eaters who do appreciate the food but can t be bothered to wait for others though...
and i m "crap at driving"...
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Post by rob on Feb 26, 2009 9:34:43 GMT -5
^ not necessarily an immediate turn-off... it might be something that's fairly innocuous and only festers later after you're already hooked up. got me a few more: Slow Walkers up there with slow eaters, slow walkers simply shouldn't exist. In the savannah, these would be the guys/girls first picked off by the lions and the last ones to the feast (leaving them only with the bone marrow). Unless they have some amazing artistic/intellectual gift that allows them to earn a decent patronage, I fail to see the point of these people. [The irony of course is that if they're late for "America's Top Model"), these ppl will move their ass like there's no tomorrow.] Another strain of the slow-walker is the serendipitous/easily distracted walker..... you know... the type that magically disappears into a bakery or a candle store when you're on your way somewhere (and late) and doesn't tell you.... leaving you scratching your head at the street corner wondering where the f*ck they are. Wears tons of make-up I'm sure that face paint meant something 18 million years ago when we looked like monkeys and danced around a fire to celebrate puberty, but today I just fail to see the point, much less the fuss and obsession, of putting all sorts of crap on our faces and goop in our hair habitually. The worst is when you raise the topic (after you're left waiting multiple times outside their door for 30mins+ while they get ready) and they say "I don't do it for you or others, I do it for myself". YEAH RIGHT. Sorry, but beyond a certain smidgen amount, it all boils down to either vanity/superficiality or insecurity. No other explanation. Has a sh*tty blog To have a blog, you should be either funny or intelligent. [Warning: If you are simply good looking and fooled into thinking you one of the aforementioned you will attract only stalkers and lechers like me.] If you are not intelligent or funny, chances are your blog will be boring as sh*t, will be a trivial gripefest (black jellybeans?! yeck!) and you should not subject others to it lest they have the urge to shower after each each installment of “Check out my neighbour's weiner dog”. Videogames, I-pods and incessant stimulation As someone that grew up craving an Atari/Commodore 64 and a Sony Walkman (and got a plastic Pete Rose baseball bat instead  ), I fully appreciate the enjoyment provided by videogames and portable music. It’s a real treat. What I don’t get is the degree to which it takes over some people’s lives, dulls them beyond compare, and conditions them to a life reliant on artificial stimulation. People who rely on an i-pod intravenous feed on a hike or a DS lite while I’m driving them through the Rockies….. man, we can hang out, but that’s about it. [I’m into people that look out windows and ask all sorts of questions I can’t answer.] Similar thing on roadtrips…. You’re up early, air is brisk, mountains loom, you’ve just scarfed down a couple hashbrowns from the 24hr McDs and are in search of the highway onramp…… do we really need to put on your CD right away? Can we we just open the windows a bit, take in the views and save the music til we get to the boring parts? /rant (for now  ) |
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Post by i move the stars for no one on Feb 28, 2009 0:00:46 GMT -5
men who have no initiative.i hate being the one who has to come up with/start everything.you know it's the weekend,you think of something we can do.you can see that the litterbox is full,you clean it out.drives me absolutely insane.you shouldn't need me to set an example or remind you of things you should be taking care of.that's what i do at work,with children.
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Post by rob on Feb 28, 2009 12:16:19 GMT -5
men who have no initiative.i hate being the one who has to come up with/start everything.you know it's the weekend,you think of something we can do.you can see that the litterbox is full,you clean it out.drives me absolutely insane.you shouldn't need me to set an example or remind you of things you should be taking care of.that's what i do at work,with children. Juniper - this one's for you!  |
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Post by i move the stars for no one on Feb 28, 2009 16:40:05 GMT -5
Robble! luckily i'm not as bad as all that. |
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Post by rob on Mar 2, 2009 7:19:00 GMT -5
Robble! luckily i'm not as bad as all that. yeah, i know i took some liberties there - sorry! but how can you go wrong with Karyn White and photos of your favorite spots in Kuala Lumpur? [/quote] edit from Juniper:i accidentally modified Rob's post instead of quoting it,and don't have what i changed in my clipboard anymore.really sorry,Rob.  |
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Post by celltocell on Mar 7, 2009 2:21:13 GMT -5
im only crap at driving when i dont know where im going. otherwise, i'm smoooooth on the road.
then again i've only had my liscense for like 2 years ish.
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), I fully appreciate the enjoyment provided by videogames and portable music. It’s a real treat. What I don’t get is the degree to which it takes over some people’s lives, dulls them beyond compare, and conditions them to a life reliant on artificial stimulation. People who rely on an i-pod intravenous feed on a hike or a DS lite while I’m driving them through the Rockies….. man, we can hang out, but that’s about it. [I’m into people that look out windows and ask all sorts of questions I can’t answer.] Similar thing on roadtrips…. You’re up early, air is brisk, mountains loom, you’ve just scarfed down a couple hashbrowns from the 24hr McDs and are in search of the highway onramp…… do we really need to put on your CD right away? Can we we just open the windows a bit, take in the views and save the music til we get to the boring parts?
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