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Post by Subuatai on Jul 25, 2009 7:24:41 GMT -5
^ Glad to know me and my wife aren't the only ones. Thanks for your input.
It's hard to deal with when friends are the ones who make these comments. I don't know how you can put up with your mates. I know I couldn't, I've changed my number, changed my social circle, and now trying to cut myself off from the net so I don't have to put up anymore with race, religion or politics.
Nowadays I'd rather have a few friends who give me no headaches then a hundred that drive me nuts everyday after my 7-day shifts. Right now we only have two other couples as close friends who live closeby, it seems only other parents can understand each other. My wife's church still can't accept me since I'm still stubbornly "Pagan" so that restricts our social circle even further.
Race and religion, anyone that brings up either I tend to cut them off nowadays. I've done this with the Mongol community and my wife has done it with the Church community. And I tell you what, even with a small fraction of friends compared to before, life just gets so much better with less sh*t to deal with.
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Post by LengLeng on Jul 25, 2009 18:17:02 GMT -5
I do have to say though, from personal observation it does seem to be only eurasians who find this whole 'your beautiful because of your mix' and other such comments to be tiresome. I know a lot of mixed black and white people and they embrace it and put it out there like it's the best thing since sliced bread. And from what I've witnessed in the black community, it's 'common knowledge' that being mixed black and white is the more beautiful out of black, white or mixed, particularly with the men. not saying this is true and of course the black people and the white people don't find it so amusing, but the mixed people (our equivalents) accept it, advertise it all over the internet and embrace the stereotype that they are meant to be goodlooking. of course, I'm only talking from personal experience so feel free to object but it's just what I've noticed. and while I'm at it I hate the way Blacks accept half blacks as their own, but half Asians get their own category when it comes to full Asians. :@ rant over
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Post by toyomansi on Jul 26, 2009 14:46:00 GMT -5
I feel like I've heard that mostly from asians, and a few asian girls have said they want to have beautiful mixed babies, which just kind of creeps me out for various reasons. Me too! Some have told me that they want a euro husband to have white-looking babies, and that they prefer that the baby will look like their white father... And they seem to think the more white-looking EAs are more beautiful than the asian-looking ones. Which really makes me angry... I mean, EAs can both be pretty or ugly regardless of how white or asian they look! It's crazy to believe that the more white features = the more good looking
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Post by palaver on Jul 26, 2009 16:21:20 GMT -5
I feel like I've heard that mostly from asians, and a few asian girls have said they want to have beautiful mixed babies, which just kind of creeps me out for various reasons. It's crazy to believe that the more white features = the more good looking I wish more ugly white people would be self-hating. Colonial sex appeal can only hide so much. I guess when you're around them--and outnumbered--for most of your life, you can start telling the ugly ones apart...versus having a more limited colonial exposure. Anywho, I don't believe beauty is a racial thing--just like those darn waist to hip ratios. It's more like a math thing.
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Post by Yingy on Jul 27, 2009 17:35:29 GMT -5
^ Glad to know me and my wife aren't the only ones. Thanks for your input. It's hard to deal with when friends are the ones who make these comments. I don't know how you can put up with your mates. I know I couldn't, I've changed my number, changed my social circle, and now trying to cut myself off from the net so I don't have to put up anymore with race, religion or politics. Nowadays I'd rather have a few friends who give me no headaches then a hundred that drive me nuts everyday after my 7-day shifts. Right now we only have two other couples as close friends who live closeby, it seems only other parents can understand each other. My wife's church still can't accept me since I'm still stubbornly "Pagan" so that restricts our social circle even further. Race and religion, anyone that brings up either I tend to cut them off nowadays. I've done this with the Mongol community and my wife has done it with the Church community. And I tell you what, even with a small fraction of friends compared to before, life just gets so much better with less sh*t to deal with. I've been slowly distancing myself from those friends but I have been trying very hard to give people the benefit of the doubt since before I would always right people off right away and dump them, now I'm trying to be "nice" lol I'm hoping that they will catch on by my comments that their sense of breeding ideas sound really silly hopefully from that it will change their prespretive..... the jaded part me thinks yeah right but I rather give it a try before I blow them off.
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Post by xandra on Jul 27, 2009 19:13:02 GMT -5
I feel like I've heard that mostly from asians, and a few asian girls have said they want to have beautiful mixed babies, which just kind of creeps me out for various reasons. Me too! Some have told me that they want a euro husband to have white-looking babies, and that they prefer that the baby will look like their white father... And they seem to think the more white-looking EAs are more beautiful than the asian-looking ones. Which really makes me angry... I mean, EAs can both be pretty or ugly regardless of how white or asian they look! It's crazy to believe that the more white features = the more good looking Yeah, and I wonder how they'll feel if their kids do end up looking mostly white and people assume they're just the nanny.
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Post by betahat on Jul 27, 2009 23:56:13 GMT -5
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Post by meep on Jul 28, 2009 0:31:42 GMT -5
Me too! Some have told me that they want a euro husband to have white-looking babies, and that they prefer that the baby will look like their white father... And they seem to think the more white-looking EAs are more beautiful than the asian-looking ones. Which really makes me angry... I mean, EAs can both be pretty or ugly regardless of how white or asian they look! It's crazy to believe that the more white features = the more good looking Yeah, and I wonder how they'll feel if their kids do end up looking mostly white and people assume they're just the nanny. People once thought that of my asian mum...
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Post by palaver on Jul 28, 2009 5:25:08 GMT -5
If that explains the quality of female anchors at Fox News, they're also getting dumber and blonder. Not sure why Huff Post linked to Fox News instead of the research. Anywho, did they control for cosmetic surgery and anorexia? Wouldn't beautiful women having sons affect the male population? Shouldn't the rise of metrosexuals be having an impact?
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Post by betahat on Jul 28, 2009 11:17:55 GMT -5
^If that explains the quality of female anchors at Fox News, they're also getting dumber and blonder. Not sure why Huff Post linked to Fox News instead of the research. Anywho, did they control for cosmetic surgery and anorexia? Wouldn't beautiful women having sons affect the male population? Shouldn't the rise of metrosexuals be having an impact? I think they linked because they like to link to video, rather than to journal articles. It does seem like a mystery why only feminine beauty genes would be selected and not male beauty genes, unless female beauty genes are very different than male beauty genes (i.e. beautiful women are more likely to have beautiful daughters than beautiful sons - perhaps the rise of metrosexual looking guys is a result of selection for feminine beauty genes that affects men too???) I'm sure it's not that serious a study, though - given the time it takes for evolution to work, and how long of a sample of accurate photos/pictures they can possibly have.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2009 21:22:05 GMT -5
In a way I think it would be nice to be called "exotic" once in a while lol I'd take it as a compliment, that's for sure.
when I came back from visiting my family in Cali with a deep tan, my boyfriend told me that I looked almost exotic. lol
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Post by jefe on Jul 29, 2009 1:56:15 GMT -5
and while I'm at it I hate the way Blacks accept half blacks as their own, but half Asians get their own category when it comes to full Asians. :@ rant over While blacks in general are more accepting of mixed race people within their community, they do have issues with it. I have had friends that have been told their black parent is a sellout, and ashamed of their own race. I have had friends insulted and told they were "trying to act white" and "not being black enough." I had a girlfriend get into a first fight because someone thought she grew her hair "too long and was trying to show off". No joke. We all have issues, black, asian, white, doesn't matter. They just manifest themselves in different ways. I must agree with Pelle and I don't agree at all Leng Leng at all about this issue. I grew up in or adjacent to majority black neighborhoods for my entire childhood / youth. I don't think that blacks are at all automatically accepting of mixed race people in their community. Even our president struggled through his youth to deal with this issue. I have seen dark-skinned black American scorn their light skinned *cousins* - "You think you're hot s*** coz your light, your mother is probably white!" And there are *full-blooded* Asians who embrace Eurasians easily and quickly, esp. in places where there are many of them (eg, parts of the Philippines). Maybe the difference is here: - "African-Americans" are already very mixed already, and the vast majority are very aware of their own European and other non-African ancestry. The fact that someone is partially non-African does not in their eyes make them non-Black. However, this might not hold true in parts of Africa not accustomed to the multi-racial part African phenomenon. A person labelled "black" in the USA might be labelled "white" in parts of Africa. Many East Asians are labelled *white* as well in parts of Africa due to their very fair complexion. I have never witnessed it personally, but I have learned that Albinos in Africaare often abused or even killed for their skin color. - If a mixed *black* person grows up near an African-American community, he may gain extensive socialization within the Community, and might socialize more similarly to a black person. If he carries over any of these habits interacting among whites, he might not be very accepted. - If a Eurasian grows up in an Asian community, and speaks, acts and thinks like his Asian cousins, the Asians might not think that he is exactly like the *foreigner* despite teasing him for it (even though they find him rather *foreign* looking) -- he would be one of their group who happens to be part white. From a NON-Asian perspective, they might erroneously interpret this as being 100% accepted. - I have met many Asians who simply assume that Eurasians are immediately embraced by the white communities. It does not mean that they are. - Many Asians who grew up in Western Countries are already overwhelmingly westernized and assume that what makes them *Asian* is their unmistakable Asian appearance. They cling to this idea that this is what makes them Asian, and therefore not accept ethnically mistakable Eurasians in their midst. But put that westernized Asian immediately back into an environment near his Asian ancestral home, and I am sure he will be much less accepted than his local Eurasian *cousin* who is in tune and acculturated into his local Asian culture.
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Post by Szymon Von Zalyn on Aug 1, 2009 6:37:19 GMT -5
I only get complicated when people realise that I am one! A lot of the time I get disbelief as I do not fit the stereotype.
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Post by toyomansi on Aug 4, 2009 12:36:55 GMT -5
^ I know what you mean, when growing up looking different from the rest it's not easy to figure out if your look is classified as "pretty" or "ugly" or just plain "weird" lol... In school white boys teased me every day about being really ugly and weird-looking, and they wouldn't go anywhere near me, so I thought that I was the ugliest kid in the world. But every time we went to the Asian community, they all praised me and told me I was soo beautiful! So I was both ugly and pretty depending on where I was, which made me a really confused kid!
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Post by Yoomy on Aug 15, 2009 4:57:52 GMT -5
No I dont think being complimented annoys me? Just say thankyou and walk on
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