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Post by dela cruz on Dec 27, 2004 17:30:45 GMT -5
damn... this is depressing :/
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Post by Joolie on Dec 27, 2004 18:21:37 GMT -5
I see a lot more here are more attracted to non-Asians.. I can't say i'm the same way at all.. I am probably one of the few girls on EAN.. that admit I love Asian guys... but particular ones... lol... so maybe I'm just as picky? I lean towards those guys that are not f.o.b, those I cannot stand cuz they irritate me and really I have nothing in common with them.. but otherwise, if I had a choice b/n two guys, one White, the other Asian and they basically had the same personalities, I'd go for the Asian. *shrug*...
Strangely, I've had my share of negative experiences with Asian men but it did not involve their race... whilst, White men would be more negative because they did not always see through my race... I would be their "exotic" Asian girl.. and I like guys that can understand my Asian culture, adapt to the language, and raise children in a rich culture whether it be Asian, European, Black, whatever... it just so happens that I want to speak and teach my children Chinese so being with another Asian makes it easier... everyone knows my guy is Filipino and the fact that he can accept, appreciate, and is willing to learn about the Chinese culture/language makes me one lucky girl.
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Post by scott on Dec 27, 2004 20:40:50 GMT -5
Racist to my asian side? Hell Yes , Ive Been
Example.....Awhile ago..One of my asian friends started callling me a half-casket (its half caste...i know). So i called him a "Gook". I dunno why..but he was shocked and didnt talk to me for awhile. But isnt fair...He called me a half-kasket...so should i equally insult him back?
Moving on topic....Nah, I dont have thing for any race/ethtincity. Aslong as we have a few things in common,Im sure the relationship will last.
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Post by valen on Dec 27, 2004 21:36:29 GMT -5
I really don't have any preferences... any girl would do for me, but from my encounter with Asian girls, a majority of them are simply too Asian for my tastes. They only hang around the 100% Asian groups and they're just not my type. Their humor and attitude is something I understand and enjoy, but it's nothing I can or know how to respond to.
I mean, I speak the language, the slang, mimicking some of the Thai attitude, etc...but inevitably me being raised in Sweden and being half Swede has deprived me of being fully immersed with my Asian culture. The only thing that's kept me in touch with it is because my mom speaks the language. Otherwise...zip. Nada.
Yet, however the women I have connected recently with would in fact be Thai girls (three so far). They're born and raised in Sweden, but they're neither really Thai or Swedish...but something in between. So yeah, Westernised Asian girls is who I'm attracted to...simply because I click with them.
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Post by indy on Dec 28, 2004 7:59:52 GMT -5
This is a prickly subject. I've never been out with an asian guy either.
When I was younger I considered them unattractive and nerdy, but as I've gotten older I've realised that my attitude was stupid.
There a beautiful and kind hearted people of all races.
I live in Australia like Rachel and allot of people dislike asians because they think they are swamping the country and taking over. (This is just based on my experience shoot me down in flames if you disagree).
Living in an anti asian society makes you not want to be associated with other asians. I 've always managed to dodge the bullets cos I look more caucausian but there is one guy at work who once he found out I was half chinese always makes a point of calling me an asian. That made me worry that people in the street looked at me and saw as just another asian.
I know this sounds really wimpy like I'm trying to blame society for my own prejudice, but sometimes its hard to have a positive image of asians when you live in a country that doesn't want to aknowledge you exist. If you walk down the streets you see hundreds of asian faces but if you turn on the television set everyone has blonde hair and blue eyes.
I'm most attrated to mixed race looks, not just eurasians but any type of mix. I would definitely date an asian guy if they right one came along.
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Post by scott on Dec 28, 2004 10:34:55 GMT -5
. I live in Australia like Rachel and allot of people dislike asians because they think they are swamping the country and taking over. (This is just based on my experience shoot me down in flames if you disagree). unbelievabley true in australia......./me sings australian anthem Advance Australia Fair |
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Post by Tricky on Dec 28, 2004 10:43:55 GMT -5
I live in Australia like Rachel and allot of people dislike asians because they think they are swamping the country and taking over. (This is just based on my experience shoot me down in flames if you disagree). Alot of people I know do not have this attitude. Asian sudents that come here to study abroad are welcomed. Only rednecks for lack of a better word, display this attitude. People living in large cities are especially open to people of different ethnicities, they have grown accustomed to seeing ethnic faces, especially in cities such as Melbourne and Sydney, where there are suburbs dominated by particular ethncities. The Gold Coast for example gets a few thousand Asian tourists a year, they are welcomed, they benefit the economy and local businesses. Older Australians usually have this attitude, but with the new breed, their attitudes are changing. (media and government pursuasion). If anything people have always been more racist to the natives. It's not Asians that they hate it's Aborigines. People should stop blaming them for social problems, they or their ancestors are the ones who caused it in the first place. Australia is being Asianised but definately not being taken over. Australia's current population is still predominately anglo. Yep I'm coorecting myself here. The Asian population in a mid size city in America far exceeds the combined Asian population in Australia. We should have nothing to complain about. People shouldnt be suprised considering our proximity to the Asian region. Becoming Asianised is also good for doing business, our neighbouring countries are more attracted to doing trade wih a country that many of their people reside in, in turn this benefits our economy more so than what migrants take and don't give back. Almost all societies today are anti Asian. An Asian living in an Asian country with mass Western influence, which has affected almost all Asian countries that are affluent in some nature, prefers features that most Caucasians have. Have a look the Indonesian, Malaysian, Hong Kong and even Japanese celebrities, they have a very Western (not as in White) appearance and most SE Asian celebrities look Eurasian. The last time I checked the average Malaysian etc did not look White in appearance. Then again celebrities aren't usually average. But this does prove something. Asians in Asian countries love anything that's Western, it is associated with modernity, out with the old, in with western culture merged with the ethnic traditions. Labels are labels. You'll get them regardless of your ethnicity. Some labels are not race exclusive. True enough but blonde hair and blue eyes sells. The majority is Anglo. An Asian will only appeal to a minority of Anglos and the Asian minority of the population which only at most makes up 4% (may have increased lately and may not include temporary residents) of the population. Things won't chnage until people's attitudes change. They media caters to societies changing views. They only put out what sells. Since so many have a negative opinion of Asians, including Asians themselves, why advertise something that people dislike. It's hard to convince people otherwise of their negative attitude if Asians and part Asians continue to have this attitude. It's a self perpetuating cycle. |
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Post by cel2 on Dec 28, 2004 13:46:47 GMT -5
I don't have a reason to be racist to my Asian side. I would be in a rl with an asian guy but there is also a difference between asians raised outside of asia and asians raised within asia. The more I think about this topic, the more the good and the bad are apparent in both whites and asians.
In all honesty, I cannot seem to appreciate men in general, though there are exceptions. I have difficulty assessing what on earth is so good about one that another lacks, when in actuality the former has major drawbacks in another department. If I had to make a choice I'd go for an asian man rather than a white one by a hair's breadth.
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Post by jeepin4x4girl on Dec 28, 2004 15:45:41 GMT -5
Racist towards my asian side? I'd have to say....maybe a little bit. Technically, I've never dated an asian guy before...I did go on a date with a filipino guy once years ago (my mother set us up :  That spells for disaster right there...needless to say it didn't go very well. Anyhow....the majority of rl's I've had have been with white guys. Which is understandable because there's hardly any asian people around here to begin with. Who knows, maybe if I grew up around asians/EA's, it would be different. |
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Post by Uncle Hank on Dec 28, 2004 20:34:24 GMT -5
I've started to discover a problem with asian women I've encountered recently.
The FOB one's are interested in asian guys and are all clingy to groups of other FOB asians. These girls will go for white guys, but they somehow feel inadequete to get a white guy (language/culture barrier, who knows). They seem so eager to assimilate in total to western culture, and latch onto the first white man that asks them out.
The asian girls who are westernized seem to deny their asian heritage like it's a bad stigma (reverse Wasian or whatever), and are only interested in white guys; Then they meet me. I don't mean to sound arrogant, but those self-haters find me attractive when they meet me (I'm a Westernized "Asian" guy with some caucasian features). However, their reasons for not going for asian guys disgusts me to the point that I want nothing to do with girls like that. IMO, self-hating asian women show lack of confidence in who they are as they succumb to the stereotypes the western media is feeding them.
So for the most part I haven't find asian women attractive because either, I can't relate to them (FOBs), or their self-hating views disgust me (nearly all westernized asian girls I've met). It seems for both types the end goal is to get a white man, while asian guys are secondary at best.
I find women of all races physically attractive, but I don't base my interest purely off of that.
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Post by DivaDancerLara on Dec 28, 2004 21:01:13 GMT -5
I really don't have any preferences... any girl would do for me, but from my encounter with Asian girls, a majority of them are simply too Asian for my tastes. They only hang around the 100% Asian groups and they're just not my type. Their humor and attitude is something I understand and enjoy, but it's nothing I can or know how to respond to. Yet, however the women I have connected recently with would in fact be Thai girls (three so far). They're born and raised in Sweden, but they're neither really Thai or Swedish...but something in between. So yeah, Westernised Asian girls is who I'm attracted to...simply because I click with them. I agree well I click with Canadianized guys be it asian or mixed or white. I find hapas I can really talk too. With Asian guys I don't fit that petite demure or small chinese girl look I mean I am Indian so I got a little chutney in me. I would be considered plus size I am sure in those hong kong clothes shops that service -0 size girls. not me ... I drink milk ;D |
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Post by TeeHee on Dec 28, 2004 21:37:46 GMT -5
With Asian guys I don't fit that petite demure or small chinese girl look I mean I am Indian so I got a little chutney in me. I would be considered plus size I am sure in those hong kong clothes shops that service -0 size girls. not me ... I drink milk ;D i don't fit that petite asian girl image either(skinny perhaps, but 5'7", which is neither petite nor unusually tall), but i still have shorter/same height asian guys wanting me or hating on me at the same time. i've actually seen alot of tall full asian guys. but as i said before, my dislike towards asian guys goes way beyond just looks. most of them seem to enjoy starting rumors about me. for example, all my exes were full white. so when one of my asian friends began talking to me, all these dumbass asian ppl were saying stuff like "she's had all white bfs..you know how much disease she's got?!". this is only one to name for the moment. so yea, i wouldn't necessarily say it's necessarily the height factor. i guess if some ppl hate you from the get-go, they will hate you no matter what, and will try to nitpick at every single thing about you. anyhow, i drink milk too ;D |
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Post by Tricky on Dec 28, 2004 21:57:51 GMT -5
This is an interesting topic. Most Eurasians tend to be partial to their White side more. Being called an Asian for alot of people isn't acceptable regardless of which ethnicity you resemble the most. while on the other hand if someone saw them as a Caucasian, there are fewer objections.
A good majority prefer their White side especially when it comes to finding partners, but their Asian side is talked about quite often on these forums. Maybe Asian culture is in and people want to be part of it, or it's good to be unique and have something they separates them from others. Sometimes it's anti White, pro Asian. I think in reality the situation is fairly different. Some people on here talk about the side of themselves they have been supressing. They'd rather not identify as an Asian in RL, especially if they live in an area where Asians have a negative image.
Do Asians and part Asian hate themselves that much that they like to make fun of other Asians. Or have they just been affected by the media. If you want the image of Asians to change, stop supporting the racial heirarchy, Whites are still going to be on top while you support that notion.
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Post by Joolie on Dec 28, 2004 22:22:14 GMT -5
Do Asians and part Asian hate themselves that much that they like to make fun of other Asians. Or have they just been affected by the media. If you want the image of Asians to change, stop supporting the racial heirarchy, Whites are still going to be on top while you support that notion. I support this notion of yours 100%... you summarized it best.. I didn't want to say anything.. I found it very interesting that ppl on here put down Asians so much, yet are more than happy to participate or express their experiences as a mixed Asian person (talking about their Asian half with pride?) but then so easy to deny any interest in Asians, relationships wise. Obviously, for those ppl that do not like Asians (dating) because of whatever reasons whether it be race-related or not, you are here because one of your parents saw past the "Asian-ness" in the other parent, and had you. Now if you don't want to date Asians because you previously had a bad relationship with one, or know of Asians who have given you negative experiences, than I say.. please don't clump all Asians together.. if everyone thought the way you did, then racism will persist and White superiority will only prevail. You are a product of an Asian/non-Asian parent after all.. |
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Post by Tricky on Dec 28, 2004 23:05:49 GMT -5
I support this notion of yours 100%... you summarized it best.. I didn't want to say anything.. I found it very interesting that ppl on here put down Asians so much, yet are more than happy to participate or express their experiences as a mixed Asian person (talking about their Asian half with pride?) but then so easy to deny any interest in Asians, relationships wise. Now if you don't want to date Asians because you previously had a bad relationship with one, or know of Asians who have given you negative experiences, than I say.. please don't clump all Asians together.. if everyone thought the way you did, then racism will persist and White superiority will only prevail. You are a product of an Asian/non-Asian parent after all.. I noticed things didn't add up, most of the threads here are very Asian orientated, when it comes to relationships they are quick to dismiss Asians as potential partners. (so am I, I will admit) Yes many people do clump all Asians, Blacks and Hispanics together based on their bad experiences with a select few, they also have similar experiences with Whites yet, they acknowledge that not all Whites are the same, I thought we were all of the human race. Having a White partner and children that have more probability of looking White is all about assimilation or part of the process of colonisation as Jefe may correct me there. Many of the reasons given why they prefer Whites relates back to better assimilating into Western society, although this is where a majority of us reside. Some people may be the result of one of their parent's attempt at assimilation, children of these parents may entertain similar thoughts. It could be genetic.  Speak your mind Jolie.  Nothing to be afraid of, some people won't like what you say, some people will commend you on saying what you really think. This is just like in reality, you cannot have everyone agreeing with you, the excitement is when people attack you or your comments. Instant entertainment. |
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That spells for disaster right there...needless to say it didn't go very well. 
Nothing to be afraid of, some people won't like what you say, some people will commend you on saying what you really think. This is just like in reality, you cannot have everyone agreeing with you, the excitement is when people attack you or your comments. Instant entertainment.