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Post by Groink on May 14, 2009 11:02:49 GMT -5
This thread has taken a curious turn. Urg. I forgot what my mod color was... Anyway, yes, let's try a steer a bit away from the gross out fest this is turning in to.
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Post by radicalken on May 14, 2009 11:40:21 GMT -5
Ahhh, I wanna know what you originally posted before the edit! edit - nevermind. i am mean and i feel guilty ;D ;D i'd rather just turn it on myself and say FML
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Post by betahat on May 14, 2009 12:51:07 GMT -5
Welcome back Stray!!!
I apologize for the grossness. However, for the records I would like to state that I find very large breasts unattractive.
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celltocell
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Post by celltocell on May 14, 2009 19:49:20 GMT -5
Well back to the topic, I find that personality either makes or breaks. If I'm gonna cultivate a relationship with someone, it doesn't matter how good they make me look when they've got their arm hooked around me. Yeah, I do admit to being shallow to a certain extent though; I've got standards.
Give you some examples of what I mean...I've dated mediocre looking guys who I did not initially find all that physically attractive... like the "HOLY CRAP I WANT TO MAKE OUT WITH YOUR FACE" meter did not turn on at the beginning however the way I viewed em started to change over a course of time. I became attracted to them as a whole the more I got to know em...including physically albeit they didn't seem it before.
Now, these are mediocre looking guys so by no means are they BUTT UGLY, I'm just stating that I was not PHYSICALLY attracted to them seeing as how I had ridiculous high standards as a teen. I've dated really good looking guys as well but the few relationships that lasted a significant amount of time were due to more than just physical attraction.
Okay I'm all over the place, sorry. That's my thought process for you... ANYWAY, how do I put this....?
What I'm pretty much just trying to say is... if I'm really into someone, I'd find them attractive physically regardless of what the rest of the world may think. So....... I don't really understand what you're asking. I HALF do but I don't see how that makes much sense.
If you mean something like partners gaining a lot of weight and losing their physical appeal over a course of time then yeah...that'd totally put a damper on the relationship if their body and face broke my eyes.... unless I was just madly in love with them. When you're "in love" with someone, that pretty much blinds you from all of their flaws... especially the surface ones, seems so at least.
So it really depends on how serious the relationship is by the time your partner starts to lose their outter allure......... if I just started dating someone cute who miracuously and unfortunately gained 500 pounds within the first week of going out then yeah, I'd 99% end things.... hate to say that but it's the truth.
So, if your face hurts my eyes and my skin starts to crawl at the mere thought of you touching me then ofcourse it's not gonna work. But if you're in a healthy / loving / serious relationship then it's possible to still want them emotionally AND physically despite how they're like on the outside.
A lack of or horrible personality can make the most beautiful person hideous.
And an awesome one can make someone beautiful.
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Post by Subuatai on May 15, 2009 7:28:41 GMT -5
^ Agreed I also tend to put 'passion' 'seductiveness' 'charm' and 'game' into the same category as 'personality'. I've met ladies with really nice physical features but when it comes to their posture or charm or game/etc she turns out to be an absolute shocka! Like one of my exs, she was quite pretty when I met her, but overtime she became the most possessive clinger-from-hell that I spent 7 months trying to get rid of without her killing herself! Or ladies who don't know how to tease, or ladies who have that really annoying 'girly cute' thing going on (I know some guys like it, not me heh). In 3 years my missus went from toned to 'a bit fat' to skinny to chubby and now... back to 'a bit fat'... she's eating like a horse nowadays (partly my influence since she's carrying my baby). But too bad I'm sending her straight to the gym after she gives birth. However, despite my preference, I wouldn't trade her for anyone else. Personality is everything, that's how our grandparents can grow old yet love each other deeply. But as the saying goes; all fires are started with the spark.
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Post by jenbrook on May 15, 2009 11:39:00 GMT -5
^Are you serious? Wont she be busy errr mothering a newborn? Anyway just let her breastfeed, thats the most effective way of losing baby weight. I'd be so hurt if my S.O. sent me packing to the gym
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Post by Paddy on May 15, 2009 12:59:18 GMT -5
What I'm pretty much just trying to say is... if I'm really into someone, I'd find them attractive physically regardless of what the rest of the world may think. So....... I don't really understand what you're asking. I HALF do but I don't see how that makes much sense. If you mean something like partners gaining a lot of weight and losing their physical appeal over a course of time then yeah...that'd totally put a damper on the relationship if their body and face broke my eyes.... unless I was just madly in love with them. When you're "in love" with someone, that pretty much blinds you from all of their flaws... especially the surface ones, seems so at least. So, 'attractiveness' can be a compound of physical and personal traits, and love is all-encompassing? I think this has been alluded to by almost everyone. But is there a time when the gloss rubs off? Does there come a point (for no other reason than the passing of time) when 'attractiveness' is reduced to its constituent parts and his/her physical foibles can be discerned from his/her personal attributes; when his yellowed buck-teeth no longer compliment his sense of humour? - or is that not what love is about? My girlfriend has to be attractive (and I have to be attracted to her). I had problems in the past with falling out of love, and subsequently becoming unattracted to previous girlfriends (or maybe it was the other way around). I've been going strong with my current girl for 4 years...but I fear...what will happen when I get older - or more to the point when she gets older?? Is it at this stage, now, that the bond has to be ensured to prevent the fall out in the future? Should add that these are in part rhetorical questions and that my mindset is not represented fully by my anecdote...
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Post by Subuatai on May 16, 2009 6:34:15 GMT -5
Heh, she tells me the same thing, telling me to head to the gym since she says I've lost weight, but I say I'm the one who's working 6-7 days a week, then she says I'm making excuses and that I'm getting skinny and I can't even carry her anymore, then I say 'well who would want to sweep a big fat tubby off her feet', then she says she's going to lose weight eventually and that I should be patient, then I say 'then don't me to head to the gym while I'm the only one working', then she says to buy a home set, then... ... yeah, we mostly just give each other sh-t.
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