Raising a EA daughter Mar 5, 2009 22:50:24 GMT -5
Post by cm on Mar 5, 2009 22:50:24 GMT -5
I don't. Although I can understand how that suggestion is founded.
When i came to whiter school districts after living in a diverse city school, Asian kids were almost like side kicks to their white friends. It was really sad and pathetic.
The lack of confidence comes from lack of role models. You go to a city, you will see role models in government, at work as doctors. Live in the suburb, who will be your role model?
In the eyes of the Asian community I am probably completely white-washed but I am young and have much time to make that up. This is due to me not learning Cantonese (so I could not communicate on the same level as my extended family members) and my almost mums complete integration into English culture (with the exception of food).
So I did not get much Asian-exposure, other than the occasional trip to Malaysia.
Being white washed has nothing to do with whether you can speak the language. It has to do with whether you accept or reject your heritage. Of course the people on EAN will accept their heritage, for why would they be here in the first place?
Still, there a lot of the EA's here tend to look down upon Asians, and put Whites on the mantle. Criticize an Asian as a FOB, and it's usually okay here. Make a comment about whites, and people here get defensive.
also have an almost subliminal preference to other minorities. Sometimes I'm not even very subtle about it.
Good to see you know who your allies are in a Western country, and not being some white group's side kick Asian friend.